H is out of the house

[Ss06]

oh gosh, I hope you're ok! Was it the metal?

Have you been able to think about what it is you want after all this? Probably not with everything you're going through physically.

Take care of yourself, mama.

[kml]

Geez Twinmom - I haven't done any gynecology in ages, so I looked up the Essure - why on EARTH would they use an insert that has NICKEL in it?????? Nickel allergies are EXTREMELY COMMON (anybody who has ever had irritated ears from their earrings probably has it - see how common hypoallergenic earrings are in the store). It just seems incredibly stupid to put something in the body that has nickel!!!!

I hope they are removing it ASAP and giving you an good old-fashioned tubal ligation instead. And that you get well soon. (((Hug)))

[twinmom]

Turns out it was an infection from the procedure. On an antibiotic now and feeling much better!

I had a R talk with H tonight. We talked about neither of us showing up to court yesterday. I agreed to some MC and he agreed to giving me all passwords, looking at his phone whenever I wanted, absolutely no contact, his continued IC, and living apart for the next few weeks.

He is very remorseful for the pain he caused me. And seems to be making the right changes. Let's see if they last.

It has been very nice to have him here to help with the kids.

[unbidden]

So glad to hear it, twinmom.

[Ss06]

Lovely to hear and even lovelier to hear that you're doing better.

[twinmom]

Has anyone read the book "why men marry bitches"

My ic recommended it and it is spot on and a very funny read too. I am about halfway done and I just started it last night.

[twinmom]

I told H he could move back in. We had originally agreed a few weeks, but with soccer starting for both boys, student council for the oldest, swim lessons for the twins and my ic appointments he was here almost every day and spending a ton of $$ on gas driving back/forth to his parents.

Tonight is his first "official" night back here. I am actually kind of scared to ML to him.

[unbidden]

Good luck and God speed to both of you, tm

[Train]

Then don't ML to him.

Make him earn his way back into your heart AND your bed.

[twinmom]

The "closer" we get the harder it is for me to stop thinking of OW and comparing myself to her. I think I am losing my mind trying to figure out why this happened and why her.

I feel like the WAW in the sense I am the one now who is VERY unsure of the changes/motives/relationship in general.