There's no occasion, so not really any expectation to speak of. Anything would be a "just because" gift and thus, I don't really want to present it too much as a gift, but more just a thoughtful gesture. At this point, I'm out of the "everything you do is $**t!" stage, so I'm now looking to start to create little sparks where I can.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
I think it's helpful to keep in mind that Joe was in an EA and his way back may be a bit different.
That being said, I would err on the side of caution and slowly build trust. I wouldn't use gifts as a quick fix but rather as an external sign of the change in how you view your wife and your marriage. Let your gift giving grow out of that.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
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That's actually why I asked about the household shopping. It shows a commitment to the household, as opposed to coming off as an attempt to buy his wife's forgiveness.
Me: 31 W: 31 T: 10 years CL: 7 years IDLY: 01/13 Sep: 07/13 I Moved out: 10/13 W Currently seeing OM Pets, but No Children
Yeah, that's basically my whole plan. I think she trusts I won't get into an EA again. She hasn't forgiven me, but she knows I won't. She's still wary of my new habits in housekeeping
My gifts will need to be subtle as to not appear too pathetic or like I'm trying to buy her forgiveness. I'm simply trying to get that spark going.
Me: 34 W:33 T: 10 M: 6 S: 6 D: 5 BD: 5/14 Still together(ish) Not giving up: 7/14 D talk has slowed, a lot. Gradually working on things together. Still separate bedrooms. Slow and Steady wins the race.
