I like what Maybell said. I know with me, I have to continue to reinforce in my own head that the 180 and DB process is for my healing and so that I can move on and be prepared for either outcome, reconciliation or Divorce. However, like you, I hang on many conversations to gain insight as to what my own WAW is thinking since implementing the changes. Only time will tell
I know where you're coming from with the analyzing of your WAW. I too am a psych major, but also in grad school to be a counselor...get out of your head! You are too emotionally close to the situation. You can try to figure out your W, but it will only push her further away. My H continues to think I'm "diagnosing" him.
You have received great advice. Detaching is hard, but it protects you emotionally. Focus on YOU and make the 180's for YOU. Yes it may also be the changes your W wants, but it needs to be for YOU.
Good luck!
Atsbaby M:36 H:35 T: 19 M:12 S:11 D:9 BD: 5/4/14 Proof of OW 8/13/14-love note from her 8/19 admits OW 8/22/14 files D w/o telling me 9/20/14 Says he wants to reconcile
