First post, confused

[Casey]

I would be suspicious and doubtful that it has really turned around so fast, that W has ended contact with OM for good. Is it just her word that the A is over? Or do you have some way to verify this? If they work together then it is almost a certainty that this will not be the end of this. Is she military too? If she is could she be transferred to another command? My experience was that everyone usually knew who was sleeping with who but commanders did not like the attention that came with a formal complaint from a spouse and would move personnel around to avoid having to take UCMJ action.

[asat82]

She is not military, and they do not work together. He lives many states away, and I could always tell if she was interested in someone else or in a dating relationship by her attitude towards me.

~asat

[Casey]

Yes, for me the attitude has also been a dead giveaway; W also for some strange reason braids her hair a particular way when she beginning to get involved with someone else. Have no idea why, but when I see it I know there is OM out there.

[asat82]

I'm getting together with her next Thursday before I leave the country. This work and small positive interactions I can feel do have a positive affect on her as long as I stick to my values and boundaries. Problem is that is also has an affect on me which makes me wanting more. Detaching is easier sometimes, but harder sometimes. It's just hard to know what to do, trying to figure things out as I go.