Okay, I'm NOT good at math - lol - so let me spell it all out:
H has been direct-depositing about $3,300/month ($1,600+ every two weeks) since he left; that's much more than I would be rewarded by the courts, even though H has another job on top of the the one that pays THAT paycheck.
Maximum CS would be $1,600/month. Minimum would be about $1,300/month.
My L pitched $1,600/month in CS and $1,000/month in SS. ($2,600/month total.)
H, meanwhile, pitched paying only $1,600/month for CS and SS combined.
But as of this morning, he's paying about $1,920 a month ($960 every two weeks) instead of $3,300ish a month ($1,600ish every two weeks). So that's $1,300 (and some change) less per month ($670 per pay period) than what he has been providing the last two months since he's been gone.
Does that help clarify anything? Let me know if my numbers don't add up ...
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
Yeah, that's what I'd do. I'd keep it chatty (so not to tip him off), and say something like "I know you keep telling me to stop paying the mortgage, but I didn't want to do that without asking you first, since it's in your name. But really, since the groceries, haircuts, doctor co-pays etc add up to easily $______/mo, I guess I don't even have a choice. Or am I figuring this wrong? Hey, I was told there'd be no Math!!! lol"
And see if he responds.
I can do "chatty."
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
Okay, I'm NOT good at math - lol - so let me spell it all out:
H has been direct-depositing about $3,300/month ($1,600+ every two weeks) since he left; that's much more than I would be rewarded by the courts, even though H has another job on top of the the one that pays THAT paycheck.
Maximum CS would be $1,600/month. Minimum would be about $1,300/month.
My L pitched $1,600/month in CS and $1,000/month in SS. ($2,600/month total.)
H, meanwhile, pitched paying only $1,600/month for CS and SS combined.
But as of this morning, he's paying about $1,920 a month ($960 every two weeks) instead of $3,300ish a month ($1,600ish every two weeks). So that's $1,300 (and some change) less per month ($670 per pay period) than what he has been providing the last two months since he's been gone.
Does that help clarify anything? Let me know if my numbers don't add up ...
Thanks -- now I get it. I'm a little slow this morning.
So he's basically saying "you can either pay the mortgage and provide our children with shelter, or you can buy groceries, haircuts, medicine, gas to cart our kids around, etc. . . . but you can't pay both."
Because $1,920/month doesn't even cover the mortgage payment!!!
