That's a good idea, I will practice in my head so I remember to do that. In the past when I said I needed more time to think about whatever related to D, H got an irritated look on his face. Too bad, mister. But, I think it is getting very close to the time where we have to discuss what to do with the house. That's a pretty heavy conversation... I tend to be quiet and serious when that happens. Do I still try to channel the breezy detached person? Not really sure how to navigate this.
follow-up question - When I try to be vague about where I'm doing/going, H usually asks a follow up, and then I end up saying what I am doing/where I went/whatever. I don't want to come across as a jerk and I'm not volunteering any info upfront. Should I be more vague?
Yesterday I had to leave for the L appointment. H was surprised and asked if I was going into work (Was working from home). I didn't answer his question and just said I'd be back later and left. When I got back, H said "welcome back!"