Are you sure it wasn't a chocolate that popped into your head

You're just please that he finally posted a quote from you in his one-liners thread...

:P

I thought it was so inpirational




- Not!


but bowed to pressure

Bloody hell

Why do I feel like I have been placated?

Have you eaten a dictionary for breakfast? I had to google the word.

I obviously jest!

Life is all about choices, what we dont realise under the emotional mess, we can now make those choices for us, without having to consider our spouses.

Its scary, but you are so right, I'll have the hazelnut filling one.

Courtesy of Sunny on the fortysixty.org site

Post deleted by sgctxok

How hilarious! This sounds exactly like my H. He insists that this is good for me because now I can find someone better than him and be happier.

Received this eMail and thought it was putting here



On this board, we are constantly told to not give our spouses actions and the OP, mind space. We don't need our spouses, we desire them in our lives, but we do not need them.

Hello All

I am not sure if my husband is going through a mid life crisis or not. He left me in Feb 07 saying he no longer loved me, but still cares for me. He has always been critical, up until he left he started to only see the negative points in me. Over the last 2 years he has continually complained about getting older, eyesight going, hearing going, back hurts, cant play enough sport. Also discovered his testosterone is very low. Started going to the Gym even more regulary, weighing himself at home twice a day. Over the last 4 yrs both of his parents fell ill, one died 3 1/2yrs ago, the other 2yrs ago. We were doing building work. One daughter was in an unhappy Uni placement abroad, the other started Uni, couldn't cope with the course, had an accident and didn't go back. He discovered his cholesterol was slightly high. Then Aug 2006 had to have our dog put to sleep.
Before I read Micheles book, I went through lots of times over the last 2yrs when he said he didn't love me and was uhappy, to prove that he did, it made me smile when I read the book as somebody else had said what he had, that he had just been acting.
He started to take a friend out for lunch 3 months later, after 6 weeks their relationship developed and he says they are in love. Although in that time he has said that there couldn't be a reconciliation for us as too many hurtful things had been said, and then a couple of weeks later said if things fizzled out we were still over, and I wouldn't have him back would I, after all of the hurt and now the adultery.
There have been a few wobbly lipped moments, especially when I told him I hated him and never wanted to see him again. A couple of days later he said he couldn't bare it if we weren't eventually friends.
Although he says he wants a divorce, he didn't see a solicitor until I said maybe he should. My solicitor has said not to do anything, she has only received a letter from him, not his solicitor.
Isn't it off that he still wears his wedding ring despite being in love and having an affair with this other woman?
Before our younger daughter took up her internship in USA 3 weeks ago, we all had lunch together. He spoonfed me some of his dessert, isn't that a bit intimate for somebody that wants a divorce?
I am so confused. So hurt. I just don't know what to do. At the moment I am doing a 180 and not contacting him at all, as there was so much contact until 2 weeks ago. Any advice please.
Me 49
Him 53
Married 23 1/2 years
2 devastated daughters 22 and 20