Study of Brain/Love

This is very interesting information.
What saddened me was the end of the article; a study done on the brains of those who'd just been dumped. The part of their brains registered this with physical pain.
I think we understand.

We are what we are

Copied from a thread in Piecing:
Greetings from the Other Side. *smile* What your particular brand of WA is thinking I can’t tell you, but for the sake of argument, let’s try to imagine a typical WA (also known as Walkawayus vulgaris) Not an almost-WA, but someone who actually left their family for an OP and is currently living with him or her. To simplify pronounification, let’s assume the WA is a man. Our WA has a wife and 2.2 children. He left his family, say, three months ago, and the reality of real life with real OP is already starting to creep in (as opposed to fanasy life with fantasy OP). He is starting to miss his wife and his 2.2 children.

So far, so obvious. His LBW, being a smart cookie, has meanwhile found this site and is DBing. Our WA notices all the positive changes she has made, and that adds to this misery. Now, he is faced with two choices. He could go back to his family (obviously) or stay with OP. Now, the rusty wheels of the WA mind begin to turn. He’s already badly hurt his wife, and he knows it. She may choose to forgive him, but she may never really do it. Or even worse, she might become a WA herself at some point (and after all, who could blame her). So in his eyes, he’s already thoroughly discredited himself in front of her.

As for OP, he’s been telling her for months what a terrible, stale, sterile marriage he was in. How his wife didn’t understand him, how they were together only for the children. He was quite eloquent, because he believed it himself at the time. Now, how to convey to OP that the terrible marriage might not have been so terrible after all, that he is torn up inside, and that he’s even considering going back? A big blow to his self-esteem and pride, and like it or not, those two things play a big factor in most men’s decisions. Not to mention that OP is probably in love with him, and he'd have to hurt her feelings, too. As far as he’s concerned, in order to go back, he’d have to make a fool out of himself in front of not only one, but two women, accept that he's made a lot of mistakes and caused a lot of pain. So he stumbles on, refuses to make a decision, alternates between burst of anger, tenderness and despair, and subconsciously hopes that someone, please, make the decision for him.

Could it be like this?

Pen

I'd like a possible ending to the story you posted Hope....

Who would actually be the right person to make the decision for him ? Is it not himself in the end ?

We should send these lost souls strength I guess, to make a choice. Because a choice needs to be made in the end right ?!

Mental Health Matters

Moving Forward II

Why the MLCer is so distant

This thread discusses Women in MLC, with quotes and postings by AmyC, who herself went through a MLC, but is now on the board trying to save her own marriage.

Her help, support and understanding is really appreciated, thank you AmyC

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Article on Adultery pn the pathpartners website

Adultery

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