Hi Michelle,

It's been over a year since my marriage was in the
middle of failure and sadly, it's taken me this long
to thank you. I always meant to, but at least in the
meantime, I have often recommended your book to
others!

I won't bore you with too many details, but I will say
that my husband was convinced he was in love with
another woman (a co-worker) and that he didn't feel
that way about me anymore. He moved out, to sort
things over in his mind, and to create space and
distance for us. I found myself going through the
self-help aisles at a local book store, looking for
any possible help in order to brace myself for the
impending divorce. It desperately wasn't what I
wanted, but he seemed resolute that it was best.
Weeks before, I would have told anyone that we had the
best, most solid marriage anyone could find. His
revelation to the opposite had shocked me, and sent me
reeling. Anyway, I found your book, called in sick to
work the next day, and read the entire DB from cover
to cover, with a highlighter in hand. I found myself
in need of the last resort technique, and even though
that thought terrified me, I vowed to give it
everything. It was Mother's Day 2004 when I decided
to really work on me, and start implementing your
techniques. (My husband had moved out about 3 weeks
earlier.) I immediately sensed a change in him. By
Memorial Day, he was considering a future with me
again. By July, he was ready to break off his
relationship with his co-worker who he claimed to have
fallen in love with 3 months earlier. By August, he
had quit his job to get away from her, broken off
their relationship, moved back home, and we were ready
to start again. We moved to a neighboring state to
get a fresh start in October. By April (for our 10th
anniversary and one year after finding out that my
husband was in love with another woman), he surprised
me with the most wonderful, heartfelt, genuine
present. He had a minister to pay us a visit during
our weekend-getaway for our anniversary. The minister
was there to renew our vows in a private ceremony for
just the two of us. My husband wrote his own NEW vows
and read them to me. It was the most amazing moment
in my life and I knew then that all the doubt and
worry could disappear. Everything was better -
forever!

I tell anyone that I see going through marriage
problems about your book. I truly believe that it
saved my marriage, and for that unspeakable gift, I
can't thank you enough. I know you probably get more
emails than you can read, but I would be remiss if I
didn't at least attempt to thank you, Michelle. My
husband and I are happier and more grounded than we've
ever been in our lives. We know now how to work on
issues in a positive manner, and our communication
with each other is better than I ever imagined. I am
so in love with my husband, my best friend, and better
yet - I am certain he is with me as well.

Thank you,
Janice


The Divorce Buster