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#550235 10/24/05 01:05 PM
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I woke up at 6:30 am with the dog howling like crazy and I thought that we had an intruder in the house. My H was coming up the stairs and I said he scared the sh.. out of me.
(I was sleeping on the couch because I feel strange sleeping on the bed).
He promptly laid on the couch, hugged me really tight and said he had a nightmare.
I didn't say a thing.
After a while he invited me to go to bed. He changed the sheets and spooned me. The dog joined us and robbed half of the bed (the dog didn't use to sleep on the bed prior to the separation) and H said, "we will have to get a bigger bed for the three of us."
Morning came and I got up to take the dog to pee. He grabbed me as I was getting ready and we ML. I told him I didn't want to get pregnant and he said, "why not? I'm your husband."
He keeps giving me compliment after compliment and we finally kissed A LOT.
Now he is asleep and I went to have breakfast. I checked my cell phone and the house's caller ID and saw that he called throughout the night (I must had been in deep sleep).
Those are all very good news and I have to say I am really happy, but I didn't show him any of this. I am actually acting pretty non-chalant.
What do I do now?


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keith, I will read your thread and see what I think.

The only change I need my H to make right now is to stop being so weird!!!


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I am speachless - You must be over the moon!....

Not sure how to advise you ..maybe don't rush things or expect too much? Keep positive etc.

GOOD LUCK Pink

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I wish my husband would have a bloody nightmare!!!!!
Did you ever ask him what it was about?
I personally think you are a very blessed woman, and that your perseverance has paid off.
YAY for you!!!!!!!!!!


There can be no testimony without a test.
I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
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I keep asking him what the nightmare was about, but he won't tell me.

I asked if he is here to stay and he said yes. He said that he missed me and thought that getting a D would be too nasty, and wants to give it another try.

I said in return that we have a lot to talk, but let's just leave it at that for now, that we should take one day at a time.


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i will say a pray for you tonight, and for all of the people who wish they were you tonight. god bless and as you said one day at a time.

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Caverna... I am so happy for you. This seems to be a step in the right direction. Just make sure your needs are being met, as well as his! Congratulations! Keep up the good work!


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I am so happy for you.




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I knew I shouldn't get too excited with H coming home. At the end of the day he decided we should take it slow and start by just dating each other.
A side of me agrees with him. Any comments?


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Caverna,
I think dating is good if you want to rebuild your R. From my past experiences I would suggest to keep detachement in mind. It is easy to not be able to really listen to H because you are looking for things (hints) on where his head is. I would really suggest to detach and think of him as a friend and that you can geniunely listen to him. Don't pressure and don't become a stepford wife either. Just listen to him. Create a space so there is room for him to be comfortable. If he feels he can't make you happy he may begin to feel like he can't do anything right. I have learned this the very hard way. Although our sitchs aren't the same I am just sharing with you, when I look back where I had been these are the things that would've made a difference. Don't attach and continue to GAL. Just my 2 cents.

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