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#429440 - 02/18/05 11:11 AM What does going "dark" mean??
wonderwoman Offline
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Registered: 01/26/05
Posts: 7
Hi All,

I see many posts referring to people going dark... and I've tried to find information on this but I'm still not sure what exactly that means...

Can someone help me understand what going "dark" means?? What is done when one goes "dark"? And when should this be done ... under what circumstances should one go "dark"?

Thanks!
Wonderwoman

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#429441 - 02/18/05 12:01 PM Re: What does going "dark" mean??
MnSPD Offline
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Registered: 03/02/04
Posts: 1283
Loc: N. MN
WW,

Going dark means to limit all but essential contact. ie, kids, finances, legal matters.

It is a tactic which allows you to provide the space they need and let them miss you. The absence of you, may begin to make them think about you and what you are doing.

Steve

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#429442 - 02/19/05 10:29 AM Re: What does going "dark" mean??
TAGIII Offline
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Registered: 10/08/04
Posts: 1180
Loc: Singapore
Dark is where I am right now and I don't see, hear, or feel a darn thing happening!
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#429443 - 02/20/05 07:30 AM Re: What does going "dark" mean??
KRB Offline
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Registered: 01/21/05
Posts: 192
Can you go dark and live in the same house with W and D2? If so how?

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#429444 - 02/20/05 01:17 PM Re: What does going "dark" mean??
TAGIII Offline
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Registered: 10/08/04
Posts: 1180
Loc: Singapore
Beats me. That's what doesn't make sense to when NOPKins says move back to California. If you in the same house how could you go dark? I guess take D2 and continue to go to family, movies, etc.?
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#429445 - 02/20/05 02:03 PM Re: What does going "dark" mean??
Jamesjohn Offline
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Registered: 11/21/00
Posts: 8334
Loc: The GREAT Pacific Northwest
Hi wonderwoman!

"Going dark" means many different things, to many different people, and every different situation. If you haven't already, take a look through the thread linked below, and see if you find anything in there that might help!

"Going Dark" - 101
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#429446 - 02/20/05 02:04 PM Re: What does going "dark" mean??
TAGIII Offline
Member

Registered: 10/08/04
Posts: 1180
Loc: Singapore
JJ,
Just printed it. I'll read it tonight.
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Bobby Jones

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#429447 - 02/20/05 03:05 PM Re: What does going "dark" mean??
wonderwoman Offline
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Registered: 01/26/05
Posts: 7
JJ...

Wow... Thanks... this does help...

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