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Re: Maybe I know what to do 3
ozman #2857916 07/21/19 01:40 AM
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Oz man, you shouldn’t be changing your plans to suit your W. If she wanted to come along to that Jurassic park event she could have. But yeah I’m glad you are starting to understand she will do whatever she wants, and that you just have to understand you can’t control her or the outcome. Once you are at peace with that I assure you, you will feel far less anxious.

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Re: Maybe I know what to do 3
ozman #2857918 07/21/19 03:34 AM
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Jurassic thing was not what I thought it was. W and I agreed S would probably not enjoy it. But she decided to do something with us instead of wedding.

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Bd 5-31-19
Re: Maybe I know what to do 3
ozman #2857919 07/21/19 03:51 AM
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Originally Posted by ozman
Jurassic thing was not what I thought it was. W and I agreed S would probably not enjoy it. But she decided to do something with us instead of wedding.

So right now it is important for you to lead. Find things that you and S will enjoy, then do it.


H:"I am going to take S to dog park." (Do not invite W)

Be OK with either response from W
W:"OK have fun"
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W:"I want to go"



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W"Would you like me to join you?"
H"That would be nice"

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Re: Maybe I know what to do 3
ozman #2857946 07/21/19 01:58 PM
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I’m a little lost on this. Can you please elaborate




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Re: Maybe I know what to do 3
ozman #2857956 07/21/19 04:32 PM
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Originally Posted by ozman
I’m a little lost on this. Can you please elaborate



Make plans for only you and S. If she wants to come along she will let you know. Don't invite her. Let her ask.

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Re: Maybe I know what to do 3
ozman #2857957 07/21/19 04:33 PM
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So Ozman, what’s your GAL for today? I’m going to a baseball game with a family friend.
Re: Maybe I know what to do 3
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Originally Posted by Steve85
Make plans for only you and S. If she wants to come along she will let you know. Don't invite her. Let her ask.



H:"W, I am going to the super market with S8"

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Re: Maybe I know what to do 3
ozman #2858002 07/22/19 01:17 AM
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Went for my morning run. Then cleaned house with W all day. We went to dinner with friends after. She seemed in a really good mood all day.

I would decide to to clean a room. She would say “I want to help” and come clean in the same room

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Re: Maybe I know what to do 3
ozman #2858003 07/22/19 01:18 AM
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And thanks for the advice. I will do that for my next GAL. CW that sounds fun. I’ve always wanted to go to a baseball game

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Re: Maybe I know what to do 3
ozman #2858012 07/22/19 03:56 AM
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How do these statements about what I’m going to do with S8 work. I mean I was told to invite W. I did and she kinda accepted and didn’t go to wedding.

Why am I not inviting her now? Steve told me to take the lead. How does he mean?

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