Just thought i'd jump in to help reassure you (well mostly anyhow) and agree with them. Nothing has really changed. It doesn't sound like you got an award or bad response - just not the response you thought. See, THIS is why your coach says to wait, but that's just a lesson learned at this point.
Here's where I agree with you and perhaps disagree a bit with the others - the roses and gifts, etc. might now look like you are doubling down and pushing. She may not stop to think this was already in play. She may assume that you feel rejected and now you are pushing and pulling out the flowers, etc. It's just a bad coincidence. Clearly you should have waited until after the flowers, after the gifts... she may have even said it first had you waited. But you didn't and don't beat yourself on it. What I would do, however, is watch for her to pull back even more after the flowers. If so, you may need to figure out a gentle way to explain that you had already ordered these - rather than a reaction to her over the weekend. DON'T SAY THIS - unless you have to. With her acting as she is now, you don't need to. I'm just looking forward as I do agree with you - the flowers may now look a bit desperate following the failed ILY rather than simply a gift that was already in play.
Hope that makes sense. Now go back to your thoughts this AM of it is what it is, you can't undo it. The less you do at this point - the better your chances of this all working out.
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Well she hasnt backed off today..she sent a text at lunch asking me how my day was going, calling me baby. Maybe the flowers tomorrow wont put her over the edge but if they do then so be it. I am supposed to see her tomorrow night so if she cancels then I know. I am such a moron.....yes flowers in motion on Monday. Uggh this stinks
Relax buddy - you did fine. Just continue as you have been - but don't keep repeating ILU until she comes up with it.
CMM came out with ILU way too early - I think maybe after a month? - and I was honest that I wasn't there yet. He kept repeating it though and that put a lot of pressure on me - probably to the point that I waited longer than I would have otherwise to respond.
My guess is she'll be saying it to you before you know it. Relax and keep having fun. Don't overthink.
Thanks guys......i will never say the words again unless she does. Hopefully the flowers and the little card that say Happy Birthday Love J9 doesn't put her over the edge. She is acting normal so me saying it must not have impacted her too much.
She is acting normal so me saying it must not have impacted her too much.
Or that it was perfectly expected and the mighty huntress knows that her trophy is just about in the snare
Never forget that there is more than one planner and plan involved here and that you are largely blind to what is going on. I like to remind myself that even when I think that I'm the smartest person in the room that I'm not.
The Dr is absolutely not a marionette acting out your "coach's" script. But perhaps you are
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
whew... ...she said she loved the roses although she hasn't seen them yet because they got delivered when she was out to lunch. She hasn't ready the card yet either unless she had her friend open it so she who they were from. I highly doubt she would just make that assumption....big assumption if I didn't send them. She said she was looking forward to seeing me tonight.
Looks like I dodged a bullet......it feels like I am in the Matrix!
