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lost8, remember, detachment (I prefer self differentiation) is an important part of a healthy relationship. Codependency never works. Eventually one person or the other starts to become more independent and the other person can't handle it.

So keep working on that. Never stop having a life. DB to some level all the time!

- Self differentiation
- Have a life
- Cement your 180s!
- Weekly date night (must)


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Time and patience Lost. Remember piecing takes more than you can imagine.

Keep doing what works.


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Originally Posted by neffer
Time and patience Lost. Remember piecing takes more than you can imagine.

Keep doing what works.


neffer nailed it.

I thought my sitch was the hardest thing I ever went through, until we started piecing.


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Thanks guys, that's why I reach out for the inspiration. I feel like once I made it to rope drop and was prepared to move on and was content, there was almost relief that I had worked to get to that point and proved to myself that I had finally done it.

Now it is hard to work back to the point where I want to grab that rope again.

And like you Steve I am approaching my BD date 5/10 and am feeling some flashback feelings. Doing my best to stay strong and remain a confident husband.


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Rope drop 2/15/2019
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