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kml #2845364 04/12/19 02:41 PM
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I am so sorry to read about the suicide. It sounds like the cancer may have returned and he felt he had no other option but to end it before the cancer took its toll on him again. My condolences to you and your friend.


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I don't know. It seems uncharacteristic for him to do it this way if it was well thought out like that. A friend said he had been treated for depression - I worry perhaps he had an adverse reaction to an antidepressant. We will know more if they find a note.

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Hopefully he left a note...but it's just so sad that he felt he needed to end his life this way. My mother had a friend many years ago that had breast cancer. She fought it and had recovered successfully from it. She appeared as normal as could be and when her husband left for a ball game, she took out a pistol that she had bought and blew her brains out. She left a note stating that she was fearful that the cancer was back and she didn't want to go through the treatments again and just wanted to end it. The community was shocked and devastated that no one had picked up on her intentions.

Keeping all in my thoughts and prayers.


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Apparently he had been getting treatment for depression, had some regrets and (relatively minor) financial concerns, as well as possibly some new health issue (which he downplayed to the person who reported all this).

Accolades and remembrances are pouring in; a tweet from the mayor of LA, a gushing article in Variety. He really was loved by all who knew him.

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It's so sad. You just never know what is going through a person's head when faced w/difficulties in their lives. You hope that they will seek and continue to seek treatment, but apparently he felt he could not go on. Such a shame. So many people will miss him.

I am so sorry for your loss. I pray that he's found peace on the other side.


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The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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A lovely tribute from Elvis Costello today. He was loved and respected by so many.

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sorry for the death of your friend KML. Suicide leaves so many unanswered questions in its wake. Truth is, one can never know what's really in the mind or heart of another. Prayers for peace for your friend and solace in good memories for you xoxoxo {{{{{{hugs}}}}}}


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It took me years to understand,
That this too, was a gift."
~ Mary Oliver
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Thanks bttrfly. Everybody is trying to find reason in it, but the truth is, depression is a brain disease and sometimes there is no more reason than there is for a stroke or a heart attack. Speculation abounds but no one will ever really have an explanation.

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Public Service Announcement -
Think about your wills and about how they will affect people after you're gone.

My friend's estate should be pretty straightforward to resolve - he had just redone his will a few months ago, with his cousin in Chicago named as executor (friend was in LA). But people get downright weird around death and dying especially when there is money involved. Resentments and confusion are ruling the day it seems.

It does make me want to cross all the T's and dot all the I's in my own estate plan so there will be absolutely nothing for my kids to argue about or feel bad about.

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I had a list of to do's once the D was final. Estate planning and having a new will drawn up was one of the first things to do once all my financial pieces were tidied up.

Everyone should make it a priority once D has been inked and stamped.


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