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From what I have read and talked to a few people about there is a meme that describes OLD for men and to a lesser degree women.

Rule 1. Be Attractive
Rule 2. Don’t Be Unattractive


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Originally Posted by TBSakaJ9
I just never expected to be faced with something soo soon. I wasn't prepared.
LOL - You done gone fishin with a pole and no net there sonny!


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Lol....well it feels like. When we were out on Saturday I made a comment about my favorite band coming to town in August and possibly getting tickets. She said....why wouldn't you do you plan on dumping me before then? I didnt know what to say.

Part of my issue is my job, always having to toe the line, be careful with my words, stay neutral, be diplomatic, dont commit, just listen then formulate a response. That translates over into my personal life with being non committal.....


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Originally Posted by TBSakaJ9
I didnt know what to say.....

How about: Why would I dump you? Wait for her response. Then say no way. Now why don't you bring your sey self over and I will turn my head and cough for you lol.

What's your favorite band?

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Smashing pumpkins......I was like a deer in headlights. It touched on my commitment issues.


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Yep and also a sign she’s insecure.

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Yep....maybe it's a lack of expressing my feelings like the coach said


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Working from home today as my oldest woke up with a slight fever and is congested. I swear they always get sick on my week and this is the second time in the last month she has come down with something. SMH.

I currently feel very much at peace with the Dr and the situation I am in. I don't have any intensions of ending it with her so I guess I am in until something comes up that is a deal breaker, she ends it with me or something else comes up that would cause it to end.

The conversation of kids has not come up again so I believe that has been put to rest for the time being. If she was mad or disappointed she never expressed it to me nor pushed me to waiver from what I told her about 6 months.


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Originally Posted by TBSakaJ9
I was like a deer in headlights. It touched on my commitment issues.
I've had those moments as I am sure has the lady I'm dating. They're the "WTF - this is real" moments where you know it's no longer a game. We've actually talked and told each other that we are both finding it hard to completely trust again. Not just trusting the other person, but also that where we are is real.

Not sure if that made sense to you or not.

There is an apocryphal story that the chief engineer at NASA had a sign over his desk that said "At some point in any project it is necessary to shoot the engineers and begin production."


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Oh yes makes perfect sense it is crazy


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