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I'm enjoying the action on your thread J. I am not posting much these days but I'm keeping up with yours. Sounds like things with the Dr have progressed much better than previous ladies.

I am not a devout follower of the Coach, but the ladies on this thread really have underestimated the poor quality of men who are out there and don't have their $hit together. I agree with them that the Coach is covering so much of the basics of how to be a man in the dating world, but I know so many men who have no clue of how to court a woman and be in their masculine energy. There's just so much bloody NGS out there, in a negative sense, not in the sense that men shouldn't be respectful, kind, and generally good.

The coach has basically validated my own learning about how to positively exude my masculine energy without the pick up nonsense and macho bravado. I know that his 'bro' type language can be off-putting, but if you can get past that, he does have some sensible and practical strategies to offer that can help a man reclaim his authenticity and have appropriate boundaries.

Again, the strategy is to take what works for you and drop the rest. I honestly see so few men these days who are quality.


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Yo M good to hear from you. Yes they have and I am having a hard time letting go and being more vulnerable. She has now started to text me more personal things like I cant wait to see you, your are handsome, you are sexy, etc. and it makes me nervous. Just letting go and having fun with it is hard for me


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Originally Posted by Joseph9
Just letting go and having fun with it is hard for me

Why do you think that is?

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Idk.....afraid of commitment maybe, I have always been this way. It takes me a while to really warm up to someone and be vulnerable. I really struggle with just letting it all go like I am afraid to be pinned down. Maybe it has something to do with my job and always having to be politically correct and professional with my words. I was this way even with my xw when we first met.


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Well that's understandable coming out of a long-term relationship. Just be honest and up front with the Doc regarding where your at mentally.

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Originally Posted by LH19
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Rex - and LIH, you both like to talk all this red pill reddit - alpha male stuff...

I really don't appreciate being lumped in the same category as Rex (No offense buddy) he once compared woman to prey.



Awww ty man I appreciate it, no offense taken. I rather enjoy walking my own path and not being lumped in with other people. I think i remember the comparison, it was related to different dating styles.


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Yo M good to hear from you. Yes they have and I am having a hard time letting go and being more vulnerable. She has now started to text me more personal things like I cant wait to see you, your are handsome, you are sexy, etc. and it makes me nervous. Just letting go and having fun with it is hard for me


Could you be having second thoughts now that since she is chasing you more, you are now unsure of what you want. I think someone said it earlier that its sort of a game to you and since she is showing more interests you are now backing off, because you like the game, and the chase. Could it be that you are not as interested since you have had sex with her now?


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I feel myself making progress but it's hard. Last night she told me good night handsome and I responded sleep well beautiful......so I am trying to make a conscious effort and I find when I do it is easier. Heck me holding back probably makes her want me even more. Making my feelings unclear smile


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It's not about sex rex because when she sends me the dirty texts I get excited, makes me smile, laugh, and aroused Tmi:)


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Originally Posted by Joseph9
Last night she told me good night handsome and I responded sleep well beautiful


Why do you feel you have to respond in the same manner. You were acting unavailable before, and now since she is texting more you are texting more, being more available to her. This is why I am not a fan of corey wayne, because alot of what he says is geared toward dating a single woman. He teaches you how to act and what to do rather than the reason behind the actions. So when a man finally gets a woman interest, the man changes the way he acts, this is not what attracted the lady in the first place, so he is no longer congruent in his actions and eventually the woman will lose interest.

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It's not about sex rex because when she sends me the dirty texts I get excited, makes me smile, laugh, and aroused Tmi:)


sounds like you are happy with a sexual relationship and hesitant of a deeper emotional attachment. Could it be moving to fast for you now? There is nothing wrong with having a purely sexual relationship if you are not ready to be in a monogamous relationship. I wouldnt even worry about a relationship because she hasnt asked you for one yet. I would still continue to see and actively seek out other women.


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