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AndrewP #2836729 02/11/19 12:53 AM
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Dream! Nice of you to stop by.

The timing for date #1 seems to work out. She isn't available next weekend. This coming Wednesday when I could be available is her mother's birthday and I also felt was a bit early. So the following Wednesday it is. I got a handful of texts from her through the afternoon. She seems very normal. Big Italian family. She has I believe either 4 or 5 kids one of whom lives with her. Large number of siblings. She seems surprised / impressed that I bake and cook. I'm intending to text from time to time between now and date night.

One of the things that I am pleased with with this lady is that despite a perhaps aggressive start on her side, she doesn't seem to be pushy / desperate now that we've connected.

We'll see where it all goes. I'm planning on keeping my profile active and explore other options but not too aggressively until after I see if this lady and I are compatible.

As far as S24 goes, he did make it in time for dinner with not much time to spare. He complained about the bread and scalloped potatoes but was polite with "constructive criticism". He did talk start talking about his weekend but since it was obvious that it was with his mother's guy he quickly noticed that I wasn't interested. I do find that when he spends time with his mother that he is more critical of me - but that's perhaps just the way these things work out.

Ginger - yeah - you are undoubtedly right. If my reaching out has burned that bridge then it is what it is. I appreciate the feedback. I feel in some ways that I am fortunate that I have been able to learn from others about OLD as well as benefiting from my lurking on those sites.

Back to the galley for me. At least 2 more sink full of dishes to work through but my counter will be tidy before I go to bed.


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S21, D23
BD-9-Mar-16
D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18
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AndrewP #2836768 02/11/19 02:11 PM
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6 texts from the new lady this morning thus far. She's chatty.

Been a long time since I've had this kind of attention. It's going to take some getting used to.


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T27, M26
S21, D23
BD-9-Mar-16
D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18
I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good.
But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
AndrewP #2836774 02/11/19 02:40 PM
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She's excited and she finds you interesting! Yes, it is going to take you some time to get use to having someone pursuing you and being chatty as well. LOL!


Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to.
The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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A - I can tell you from my experience it is very overwhelming when you encounter someone that is extremely into you. Most of us were in marriages so long that you forget what that feels like. I don't have any advice for you other than it does get easier as you experience different women TBH though I still struggle with it.


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M: 46, W: 45. D: 10. D: 8 (CUR)
Bomb Dropped: 5/28/2017
Separation Date: 6/17/2017
Divorce Filed: 2/7/2018
Divorce Final: 4/12/2018
AndrewP #2836785 02/11/19 03:44 PM
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I'm excited for you that you put yourself out there. I'm also glad that you have someone expressing an interest. I'm sure it does take getting used to, especially when you are the one used to doing the pursuing, but just sit back and enjoy it for what it is. You are a lovely man and I wish you all the good things. laugh


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Bomb drop 9/29/2014
Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014
Marriage #2 12/31/2019
5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships)
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So do you already now see the difference between this lady and CL? THIS is how it should be! OMG I can't believe I'm going to quote this guy but this coach that Joseph and others worship (sorry could not resist using that term lol) would say this is very good. Much of his whole deal is showing how it's much easier to build and sustain attraction with someone who is interested. Thing is these women can lose it just as fast - as we've seen here. So make sure you keep the date and make it count. Don't let her scare you off either. Just because you date her does not mean you have to make her your GF or marry her. Make her take it slow. Keep a bit of mystery and don't talk too much prior to your date. Leave things to talk about next week - don't fiver them all now!


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Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06
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Dear Coach, my father. Thank you for the many blessings in my life and for helping me with dating.

Your loyal follower, minion, disciple.

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M: 46, W: 45. D: 10. D: 8 (CUR)
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Truly LMAO Joseph / I'm still cracking up trying to type this. Thanks for a great laugh - and sense of humor.


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Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06
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DH....aka "The Don", aka "El Jefe".........you really need to start drinking "The Coaches" kool aid. Just take a few sips, it's ok. Call up the Sweedish Goddess and ask her out!


Married 14, Together 17
M: 44, W: 43, D: 8, D: 6
M: 46, W: 45. D: 10. D: 8 (CUR)
Bomb Dropped: 5/28/2017
Separation Date: 6/17/2017
Divorce Filed: 2/7/2018
Divorce Final: 4/12/2018
AndrewP #2836905 02/12/19 02:50 PM
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A couple of texts later yesterday. I initiated by sending her one this morning letting her know that I made it in to the plant OK - stormy weather expected here today. A few back and forth and we both agreed that we are looking forward to our date next week.

I have a tendency to try to get the last word on conversations - something I'm working on so if the text doesn't appear to require a reply and there have been a few back and forth, I let it lie. I also know that given enough rope I have a tendency to talk about myself too much. Working on that too. People like it when you take an honest interest in them.

I'm not finding her clingy or demanding. Just interested and slightly flirty. I'm growing more comfortable with that.

Since I have a 1 year subscription and am in no hurry, I've marked my POF profile as hidden again. No sense being distracted for the next week or so. Not that I have any certainty that this lady will work out but she might. That will just take time to determine. Yes - perhaps I could / should have a stable of available people to date but that's not me. I believe she still has her's up which is fine although I do believe that George Clooney is still taken.

I was also interested and pleased that in my messages was a notice from POF "you appear to be exchanging phone numbers" and a link to a long and well thought out "be safe out there" document.

Going to be a difficult driving day here I think. Snow and blowing this morning changing over to sleet at lunch. I have a tarp that I strap to my windshield that makes clearing it a lot easier so that was put on after I parked. In the night I checked the hourly weather forecast and it looks like the real nasty will happen during working hours. I have yet another appointment for laser tattoo removal late this afternoon that I hope I can get to / is still on. I've been trying to get rid of this thing for over a year now.

In other news I got a call yesterday to tell me that I'm getting a bonus again this year and that this year's one has a secondary bonus attached making the amount come to essentially an extra pay-day. Last year a lot of that went to fill in the hole left by legal bills associated with the divorce. Not an issue this year so it will mostly go in to savings with the rest to help with my regular float. The chequing account gets thin at this time of the year as my income goes down with fresh deductions and my expenses go up with heating costs etc.

Back to the business of selling chemicals at a profit.


On BD
H52, W50
T27, M26
S21, D23
BD-9-Mar-16
D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18
I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good.
But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
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