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Originally Posted by Steve85
I have to admit that I've had thoughts over the last year that what if she just did this, with my D turning 15 last year, with the idea that when she turns 18 she'll follow through on her original plan to get a job, get her own place, and file for D? Any thoughts.


Have you made it to "Together at last" or "Awakening to Joy" stage?

Are you filling her love bucket? Is she filling yours? Is she actively work in the R?

Have you done retrouvaille?


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Originally Posted by LH19
Steve,

You are a pretty astute guy who has done all kinds of reading and research. I am pretty sure you could tell whether she was faking it or not.

As far as guarantees. Just death and taxes my friend.



Thanks. This is all in my head. No question about it. She is really reinvested in this marriage and working on it. Where she is today and where she was on 12/23/2017 is a complete 180.

But yes I get there are no guarantees.


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Originally Posted by Ready2Change
Originally Posted by Steve85
I have to admit that I've had thoughts over the last year that what if she just did this, with my D turning 15 last year, with the idea that when she turns 18 she'll follow through on her original plan to get a job, get her own place, and file for D? Any thoughts.


Have you made it to "Together at last" or "Awakening to Joy" stage?

Are you filling her love bucket? Is she filling yours? Is she actively work in the R?

Have you done retrouvaille?




Thanks R2C. WE continue to work.I continue to improve myself. She is working on some things as well. The love buckets are pretty full!

Retrouvaille is definitely on the to-do list.


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Just hit our 20th anniversary!

Didn't think we'd make it to 20 after what happened last year. Stay the course. Keep DBing.


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Congrats brother & W & D15!

The DB lighthouse! Thank you!

My best wishes for you and your family Steve.


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Death and taxes... Lol.. Yup that sounds about right, and the second one is still optional. Congrats Steve I hope you make it to your 50th.

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Congratulations, Steve! It's heartening that good things happen too. Your story's inspiring. Hope you don't mind me coming for advice sometime.

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Happy 20th Steve!!!


H 49 , W 47
T 23, M 17
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IHS: 7/18 - 3/19
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Congrats, Steve!


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with all the great advice you have handed us steve its hard to think that you were once in our shoes.
Keep DBing and piecing.


B.D in December 2018
Physical Affairs discovered in April 2019
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H (me) 49
W (her) 29
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