Im glad that you never had any problems with withdrawal. I dont know your background or history of addiction. Obviously, every ones physiology is different. But you can google chronic alcoholism and delirium tremors. Its scary. I have had to call ambulances for pts experiencing these. Its something i wouldnt take lightly.
Dear Westo, It took immense courage to share about this. I encourage you to read, do research and perhaps even check out a 12 step program in your area, keeping an open mind about all you learn. You do not have to live this way. You've come through so much my dear, now it's time for you to take care of yourself. I have the utmost faith in your ability to do so.
Much love, -Bttrfly
M 20+ T25+ S ~15.5 (BD) BD 4/6/15 D 12/23/16
"Someone I loved once gave me A box full of darkness. It took me years to understand, That this too, was a gift." ~ Mary Oliver
Yes I will address this, when I make my mind up to do something I will achieve it.
Last year H brought a suitcase of clothes he said he didn’t wear anymore and put it in our garage. It took a lot for me not to open it.
Our GD who is only six years old came over this morning wearing her leather jacket...she looks so cute in it.
H said “I’ve got a leather jacket too, in the garage”. I raised my eyebrows and said “I’ve got one too along with jeans...but haven’t worn them for years”. “What on earth made you buy one?”.
His answer? “I dunno, must have thought I was in my forties and not my fifties”.
I just looked at him with an expression of....oh dear. I now wonder if, when he packed those clothes in that suitcase, he was moving into the acceptance stage that Hearts Blessings mentions as the last stage.
And today, he finally accepts it. I honestly believe so.
Let’s hope he doesn’t bring that jacket in the house!
He put the jacket in his wardrobe, Job what could this mean? It’s too big for him now anyway.
If I’d bought and warn a black leather mini skirt through my MLC, I’d throw the darned thing in the bin!
In my opinion, when the jacket was in the garage, he didn't feel like he was home, but a visitor of some sort. By putting the jacket in the closet...well, it's his way of recognizes that he feel safe and at home. You will see more of the "moving in" happening in the weeks/months to come. Whatever you do, just observe, listen and if he asks for your opinion give it on this "moving in". The less you say about it, the better for now. There will come a time when he will open up more and talk about things to you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Years ago I remember hearing an interview with the then former Premier of Alberta - Ralph Klein. He was a heavy drinker and had been for pretty much his whole adult life.
He was commenting that one of the great things he was surprised with when he quit was not waking up with a hang-over. There certainly are some mornings when those words ring in my own head.
Well done on "behaving" yourself. ((Westo))
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
And was afraid you would not like it and the new him
The fact he put it in the closet means he wants to keep it
And is more comfortable around you
So do not be surprised if he wears it
And do not criticize him if he does so
This is a new relationship
There is a lot to discover
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Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
