[Westo]

Previous thread,
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2778068&page=11

Thank you Coly and Andrew,

You both gave me the title to my new thread. I really didn’t know what to call it, but I think it’s perfect.

[job]

Yes, your h is a very lucky man. He has so much to be thankful for.

[Westo]

Thanks Job,

Although, I look over at him all snuggled up on the opposite sofa and can’t help but wonder if he actually realises this.

[job]

In time, he will come to realize just how lucky he is to have a second chance.

[SBJ]

Whether he realizes it or not, but I believe that he will...every time you lay your head on your pillow at night give a wink to God. He is a God of grace, reconciliation, restoration, and second chances. He gave you the strength to persevere thru this storm and the forgiveness in your heart to heal with your H. I thank you for your ability to share your story here with us. I came on here shortly after you and you are an inspiration.

[Westo]

Oh thank you so much SBJ, your words mean an awful lot to me.

[paco123]

Yikes! I see you joined Sep. 2106 and H has just now come back. Congratulations on your patience and perseverance. You inspire me to hold on beyond my 11 or so months of waiting.

[Westo]

Hold on in there paco......you’re in for a long ride!

Please listen to all the advice here, ‘it’s a marathon not a sprint, keep your expectations to zero, get on with your life, you have the gift of time, use it well’.

These people have been there, done that. They know what they are talking about.

11 months? It’s just begun.if I hadn’t been diagnosed with breast cancer, God knows when he would have reached out.

I will never know.

BTW, he left in March of that year....

[Westo]

Today, he had to catch a train early, to attend an H & S meeting just outside of London.

When he came home, he couldn’t wait to tell me about it. He was so animated and it reminded me of before BD, when he wasn’t animated at all.

In fact....there was nothing there behind his eyes. It makes me so sad to think of that.

Ever so slightly he is coming back. I go to the fridge and there are stuff missing overnight (he eats things while I’m in bed) like he used to do.....

Last night he said “ I’m peckish, hmmmm, what’s there to eat?!”

He knew I had Christmas snacks upstairs and knew I’d bring some down. Like it used to be....before BD.

For a good few months H behaved like a visitor....I’d say in the last three weeks he is now showing he’s home.

Looking back to last July, I can see how intense him coming back was. It was absolutely difficult and not what I fantasied it would be.

[Babe]

'......he's home'

Westo, this gives us so much hope !!! Hallelujah !!!!!!