I need to impress! I need to find a proper gift to bring and the such.
Fudge.
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
I need to impress! I need to find a proper gift to bring and the such.
Fudge.
Ohhhhhhhh....Andrew.....come sit by me!
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
I DO make the best fudge, hands down. I taste tested the fudge we made this weekend and it's out of this world.
Now I want fudge
You come sit by me too, G....and bring fudge!
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids
m and I were chatting and we were talking about how we are equally different and similar. He said that our similarities make him feel relaxed and good and where we are different we help each other. Then he tells me something that makes me cry. He told me the opposite of what every other guy tells me. Instead of telling me “something doesn’t feel quite right” he tells me “ everything just feels right with you”
Work still stinks. It's so bad, we have therapists come talk to us today. But my coworker is back, so my load is lightened, as you can see by my activity on here.
But it's the furthest thing from my mind.
I woke up this morning and actually had to read my texts to make sure I wasn't dreaming. I wasn't. He really said "things feel right with you". And what we said about our differences, where instead of making things impossible or making us a bad match, they are differences they are used to help each other and grow. I mean, isn't that exactly what it is supposed to be? Isn't that what makes two people compatible? What more could you possibly look for? The other puzzle pieces are all in place too. I look forward to just nurturing and growing what we have.
There was a shift this week. I can't explain it. Like we both broke down some walls and let each other in a little more. Opened our hearts up a little more. Like we have been feeling it but have been holding it back. I didn't say this, but when I met him on Monday, he was sitting at the bar, I walked in and came up behind him and when he saw it was me, his face literally just lit up. So did mine. It sounds corny, but from that second, walls just crumbles. Not like we had major walls up, but the smart ones we built that were there to protect us for a little while.
Oh, and I little joke, don't blow it out of proportion, to break the ice of our touchy feely conversations he says "OMG, let's have a baby!" and immediately a "J/K". Then we began talking about my nutless dog who can no longer bear children. DO I think a part of him would like to have another child if we worked out? Yes. A part of me would too. My age is the only thing that is of huge concern for me. If I was in my early 30's, and we were together and we got married, the man I know now is the one I wouldn't hesitate to have more kids with. Ugh.
Don't worry I'm not getting married, not having babies, not moving in together any time soon. But I am pretty sure kid introductions will come in the new year. And I think that would be the right time.
G - I don't think 2 people are ever the same in a R. I do believe that your CORE values need to be aligned and that you need have similar interests as well. As far as differences go I would say they are good as long as those differences won't be something that later down the road will drive you a part.
My XW and I are very different people with very different interests. She was more artsy fartsy, into reading, painting, just creative in general. I am more your a typical man I guess into sports, beer, working out, being outside, athletic, etc. It was hard for us to find similar things to do together that we enjoyed because she wasn't going to sit there, drink beer, and watch a football game with me.
So for me on the differences I think it just depends on what they are and if those differences compliment 1 another. As The Coach says you should approach a R looking at what you can give to it not what you can get out of it.
