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Also today GAL spoke to me alone for 45min

GAL So how you feeling
M I am ok
GAL wow just seen your medical records do
You have a power of attorney or Will
M No W was my medical power of attorney
I did have life insurance I cash it out to survive.
GAL Eyes watered so surgery soon right
M yes
GAL can you tell me if something happens to you what
You want.
M honestly nothing, crimate me, my social security for
Kids trust fund. Each child get necklaces with my ashes.
GAL ok Let's say something happens to you tell me what you
Want.
M Ok I then explained Gal in tears.
GAL I would never know you that ill and thank you
for finally speaking up. I can see you love these kids
And I also would believe my children's. Proud of you

I finally feel GAL sees something is not right.


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Yes, sometimes it takes some time. Stay steady and let her hang herself with the rope.

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yes Marina

maybe there will be some progress now-


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Proud of you!


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I am very proud of you.

You might want to consider looking on line for a sample will and draw one up, have someone witness your signing and dating it. I know I may be a bit of a Debbie downer on this, but it is important that you have something written down and give it to someone you trust. You never know what tomorrow will bring...not saying anything will happen, but you want to make sure that your children are taken care of and what you want them to have.

As for the meeting, I think you did just fine. You stood up for your children. You asked questions and pointed out things to everyone. I am hoping and praying that there will be some progress made in the days ahead.

Please take care of yourself.


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The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
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Thank you again,

I again thank all of you for where I am today.

I know I would have lost it long time ago.

Now I know we have people here been doing this longer
Or gone through the same thing.

I am at lost why do d10, and s9 gotta go to W school just because of school
numbers, today I went to school board and when when look it up
We are almost same W school where she lives has more 10 points Wow..
10 freaking point.

Again W doesn't do any school function with S10.
I have always been involved in Family event, PTO participation
School parties. I go to every school meeting for each child. I am there.
I make sure they do after school events. Band, basketball, Stem I can go on.

Where W doesn't with S10.
W simply can't right now.

I am breaking my head, I have talk with kids and d10 and s9 cries No mom
Why do we need to be the ones always give up. Why can't s10 go to our school
He just started this school.

My kids have a big point how can I speak up for them. How can I make sure
our kids are ok.

S10 just started this new school
Remember W has moved twice since BD 2 different schools
I have been here since bd I promised my kids we are not moving until you
Graduate elementary school. This is all I been trying to tell GAL

How can I Express to GAL for GAL to see my point of view.
I want what's best for the three. If S10 was in that school for 2yrs I would have
Been put in a rough spot. But is only been 3 months for him.

I will take any advice if anyone can. Or anyone knows anything about
School district that could help me how I can try to fight this. To show
Is not about me or W is about the trio's. Again anything would help.


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Maybe you could say/ask courts to let kids stay in same school they are at until end of school year in June
since they just started and are already knowing teachers and friends for the year

that would buy you some time and hopefully W would let go


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I’m surprised that uprooting the kids from their school would ever be in consideration. Additionally, you can’t pass laws or enact statutes that are essentially status-based. Economically disadvantaged areas generally have worse schools. That would be a law punishing the poorer parent. I don’t see that passing Constitutional muster. Have you reached out to the ACLU?

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This really does sound insane. There is a standard called, "Preserving the status quo" while things are being decided about a divorce. It is best for the kids to preserve the status quo, as long as that status quo is healthy. Who is this GAL? Can you try some other organization? I don't think you are being represented well. Can you ask your pastor if there is any lawyer in your church or child advocate person who can help you? Is there a social worker for the kids? You need someone to advocate for them!


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Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.
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https://www.lewisu.edu/studentservices/health/counselingservices/resources.htm

https://www.legalmatch.com/law-libr...sumption-in-favor-of-the-status-quo.html

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/...11/custody-rulings-tend-favor-status-quo

http://namiwillgrundy.org/community-resources/

https://www.dhs.state.il.us/page.aspx?item=30893

https://catholiccharitiesjoliet.org/services/counseling/

https://www.trinityservices.org/ser...ealth-services/trinity-counseling-center

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapists/medicaid/il/joliet

https://onehopeunited.org/dcfs-counseling-services/

You should be able to get free mental health services for your kids; all should be in counseling. A licensed therapist can provide a letter with concerns and help the child voice his/her preferences. Your children are old enough that they should be able to do that.

I don't know if you want to involve child services, it can get sticky. But if your W has been abusive to them, maybe it will help. You can call and report the abuse and they will investigate without you having to pay the courts for an advocate. You could ask at these counseling places for advice.


I believe I will see the bounty of the Lord in the land of the living.
Wait for the Lord with courage.
Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.
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