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Re: Just keep swimming, I think I can, I think I can [Re: marina7] #2820980
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What about filing a temporary restraining order? Can you go to domestic abuse center for help to file one? This sounds very dangerous for the kids. A TRO can maybe at least give them a break and let W see that this is very very serious.


I believe I will see the bounty of the Lord in the land of the living.
Wait for the Lord with courage.
Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.
Re: Just keep swimming, I think I can, I think I can [Re: marina7] #2821046
11/07/18 05:33 PM
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Wow, thank you my divorce busting family,

It feels great to see all this support as I am here alone.

Well let me update as much I can. I must say this case has
Emotionally drained my lawyer, lawyer also went through a rough experience
With her Ex and he was pretty much like W. A monster
Lawyer did recommend to hire another lawyer to see what they
Can come up with. As lawyer stated maybe they could have something that
Can help us. I understood what lawyer was saying and respected her
Honesty this has been a tough case.

I guess my case was a first, Gay couple with 3 adopted kids.
They didn't even know how to file it, so they filed as they would
With a husband and wife.

One thing I realized there will be a purpose why this happen.
I know that the system for our children's really [censored]
Kids are not protected, kids are not believed, kids are made
Out to look like liars. So sad.. it really is

Sjohnson6
Yes keeping calm was the hardest thing I had to do
I had to compose my thoughts first, I had to remind myself
Your the stable parent, W wants to catch you angry W
Wants to show the world, oh you see Marina is angry.
So I couldn't give W that satisfaction. I did everything the right
Way followed lawyer advice from calling GAL, CPS and therapist
And school and anyone who would hear me.

But God was my strength as I had to call out on him first.
Yes it is abuse, W mentally abuses them and s9 has became her
Punching bag. Unfortunately s9 is known as the liar I yesterday
Finally yeld at the GAL I know he is a child only 9 but I believe
My son. I know as W at the end before bd did the exact thing to me
I am just not that person to say it because it was between W and I.

So yes the system [censored].

Peacetoday,
Yes I did recommend to my lawyer and it's being recommended for
S9 not to go until we figure out what's the problem.
I know as his mom what's happening
W control's everything as long you say
Ok W
Things will go well, s9 speaks his mind he is very outspoken
And you can't bribe s9. He is such a lovable kids but he also
Knows how to stand for what's right or wrong. And W hates that.

Yes yesterday from 7am till almost 8pm I was in and out and phones
Trying to figure out what can I do for now to get protection for s9
And all of us. As I can see W is spiraling. W is angrier when W doesn't
Have power.

Even if I have to go in hiding.
But that will mean giving up s10 and I know s10 is going through
Hell with W. I can't imagine me leaving him behind. I am fighting for
All 3.

Kyh,
When W left I had all 3 kids but nothing was in court.
W basically walk away. So when W took s10 I consider that
Kidnapping unfortunately No because nothing was filed then.
This is why I started the process legally so W can't just take s10
Away from state or anything.
Now if W does take s10 away out of state it will be considered kidnap

DnJ
Yes documents and pictures and police report done.

Now waiting but it's been a rough two days now.
Not sleeping or eating.


My lawyer said I know is hard but maybe withdrawal your case
I cried and said forget about s10 lawyer said sometimes we have to
Do things. I know this is hard but I am not going give up if your not
But I can see this case going on for a long time.

When lawyers said that I felt my heart collapsing, I wanted to hide
I wanted to scream. But I know I can't as I know W wants this.
W has family and good job and OW to help her. So W will keep
This going until W can break me. But I know I can't I know
S10 needs me too. As I know W is also might be abusive with him
If mentally bit W is. S10 has also said W tells him to stop acting
Like me and yells and curses at him when s10 does things that remind
W of me.

I can tell you all this. I am not done. I will have to be in my grave
For me to stop fighting for my kids. God gave them to me
To protect them and I will. It's been rough but I am not giving up yet.

I have taken my lawyer advice and some people advise for help.

As I know oneday I will pass it on. So I created a GoFundMe page.
Any contributions will help.

https://www.gofundme.com/lawyers-fee-and-custody


At BD
Lesbian marriage
Me39,W36
S9,D9,S8 adopted all three
Together almost 10yrs
Bomb Drop - April 2017
W movedout - May,2017
OW June,2017
Currently 2018
Me40, W38
S10,D10,S9
Re: Just keep swimming, I think I can, I think I can [Re: marina7] #2821054
11/07/18 05:58 PM
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Light from the lighthouse is shining bright. Through the night, mist, storm or haze. Lighthouse is there!


WW H(me): 48
W: 43
T: 23 M: 18
S: 13
Piecing since 03/2016
Saw the light in the storm
Re: Just keep swimming, I think I can, I think I can [Re: marina7] #2821154
11/08/18 02:08 PM
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Marina

seems like you have good direction
and all will eventually work out for the children-

Just keep pressing forward and taking action and then Letting go and trusting
keep seeking support for you

My highest hope for you is for you to find peace and comfort
the kids need you-
In the end, God has the final word

hang in


married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow
Re: Just keep swimming, I think I can, I think I can [Re: marina7] #2821271
11/09/18 02:31 AM
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Journaling,

Nothing much in this end.

It's crazy how our children system have failed our kids.

In therapy today I cried my eyes out and was just
shaking my head. Over and over again how GAL
Said s9 is being over dramatic, and GAL feels he lying
My therapist said what is your mom gut telling you.
I replied W did, W at the end before BD eyes would change
Black literally shark eyes and gripped me from my throat
And another time drag me. So yes I believe s9. As he said
It, I just stood in shock because I went back to those days
As s9 explained I visualize W doing it.

W has controlling ways I think we all do mines where
More of W staying home more and becoming more of a mom
I realized I can't make W be a mom. I have let go of that I know
W would never love trio's like I do. I excepted it.

But I would have never thought W would have done this.
Not to a child.
My therapist said you keep being your kids voice.
You keep protecting them. You keep fighting
She feels Gal is using bullying.

Unfortunately therapist said I have worse cases
Where daughters get abuse by dads and they still
Have to go back to house.

I am st all how Mess up and F***? Up the system is.
I just don't understand And I am at all.
I am going to do whatever it takes it won't matter if
S9 tells me mommy I am scared please don't send me
I won't I will go to jail but I won't I know W is going through something
Dark. And we can't be her punching bag.

Just keep praying as I am moving earth and whatever I have to do


At BD
Lesbian marriage
Me39,W36
S9,D9,S8 adopted all three
Together almost 10yrs
Bomb Drop - April 2017
W movedout - May,2017
OW June,2017
Currently 2018
Me40, W38
S10,D10,S9
Re: Just keep swimming, I think I can, I think I can [Re: marina7] #2821274
11/09/18 03:16 AM
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Hi Marina

I would believe your kids over your MLCr anytime. Yes the system [censored] everywhere. I am in Canada and when this happened to me the therapist treated my girls as if they were dramatic, fed by me, liars and zero value on their opinions. Only until i filled a police report and they sat down with my XW alone they advised me to keep the girls away from her until she sorts things out. Shark eyes... crazy they all have it. Like looking into someone soul and seeing darkness. Huge depression does that.

keep fighting the fight for your kids. They are young so they can't speak for themselves. Keep track of everything and don't be shy to record conversations.. Your kids will thank you one day

Going to jail is not an option as everyone loses especially the kids. Keep moving forward. That's all you can do.


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XW41 (38 at bd)
BD1 MAY 30 2015
BD2 JUNE 25 2015 via text
moved out Aug 2 2015
left both Daughters with me
D15 and D18
Her divorce was Final July 26 2016
She hasn't seen her kids since Aug 2 2015
Re: Just keep swimming, I think I can, I think I can [Re: marina7] #2821275
11/09/18 05:24 AM
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IrishM,

Thank you, yes I held s9 as his eyes weld
Up nobody believes me, I held s9 and said
I believe am right here, I believe you that's what Matters

S9 is really broken, a soul crushed so sad
D10 been quite her therapist says she feels
Guilty she didn't do more.

Wow. In one freaking weekend
W destroys us, am even broken
Right when I start feeling strong boom
That feeling gone overnight. It [censored]....

I get s10 tomorrow and interesting thing
Happen, GAL called W agreed 1 week on
And 1 week off. Now am questioning why not
Accept this 3 months ago. Is W now scared that
Cops where involved or W knows she might lose custody.

Not signing anything until my lawyer says ok.


At BD
Lesbian marriage
Me39,W36
S9,D9,S8 adopted all three
Together almost 10yrs
Bomb Drop - April 2017
W movedout - May,2017
OW June,2017
Currently 2018
Me40, W38
S10,D10,S9
Re: Just keep swimming, I think I can, I think I can [Re: marina7] #2821380
11/09/18 08:30 PM
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That's good that W has agreed to let you have 1 week on and off

she probably wants freedom--keep praying that w will let go of s10

Many Mlcers do not want the responsibility of kids-and depending on the MLCer, their OP and their addictions,
some drop out altogether-I see that for your W
Im hoping she will let go totally as she gets sicker in the tunnel


married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow
Re: Just keep swimming, I think I can, I think I can [Re: marina7] #2821404
11/09/18 11:09 PM
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Peacetoday,

Praying, my lawyer was wondering herself
Why change of heart, we wanted this month's ago
But now with s9 and 3rd Time I am scared can
W handle all 3 kids every other week. How can this
Affect s9,

One day at a time I guess.
I take it but I know GAL was very upset of CPS
Being called and police report.
I basically just said "I believe s9"
I will not call s9 a liar like W has and GAL has.
I believe my kids,


At BD
Lesbian marriage
Me39,W36
S9,D9,S8 adopted all three
Together almost 10yrs
Bomb Drop - April 2017
W movedout - May,2017
OW June,2017
Currently 2018
Me40, W38
S10,D10,S9
Re: Just keep swimming, I think I can, I think I can [Re: marina7] #2821504
11/10/18 09:14 PM
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I misunderstood-sorry

I didn't think W would get every other week
I just though she was giving you the week

I don't know how I would feel about s9 having to go

Maybe there is a way she can get D only?
maybe W would be ok with that-


married 14 years
H 42
bomb 2/07 IDLYA
D final 3 /09
M ow D ow
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