It is interesting how you see your excuses to choose to not end limbo. Your answers to - “So why have I not?”
I see your responses as your reasons to choose limbo. Same statements different viewpoint.
For what it is worth, I fully support your position. You long ago explained how this makes sense financially and his money could most definitely be spent better on kids than OW or other addictions.
I have always thought of you as an amazing person - a keen intellect, heart felt wisdom, and a humour that is twisted just the right amount. It is no surprise you know you could extract yourself at any time and realize the benifits of not.
To me it looks like your limbo is reserved to him agreeing to the divorce, everything else is living forward. There really is a nothingness associated with it, isn’t there. Kind of cool, after all the stress that was endured.
Take care.
Oh btw, my own epic failure of a marriage - ya not use to that at all.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
Thanks DnJ, always more than one way of looking at things I suppose.
Ok, so it's birthday time of the year. Year 1--sent me a very nice card asking me to "imagine the possibilities". Year 2--nothing. Year 3--I get a large deposit in my bank account. I'm sure it is a mistake, but it is rather funny. I'm waiting to hear from him asking for it back or accusing me somehow of being devious in "taking" it. Maybe he will be PA and have the bank do his dirty work. He might wait until tomorrow since I'm sure he would get my cooties by contacting me today.
He started contacting child at home again this week. He is doing weird things with the times he contacts him. They are not coincidental. I am predicting that S will get a text at a very specific time today, namely 1:17pm. Will be interesting to see if he does.
Still nothing on the divorce, the agreement, the auto insurance or the health insurance cards.
In general, after seeing what everyone else is going through, I've decided I've been a big baby for complaining about anything, at any time, ever. I will choose instead to embrace the 99% of my life that is going great. Peace and love to you all.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids 2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong 2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2 2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
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