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God I remember reading your thread, IH, the very first one I've ever read here. And it took me time to figure out the order of it all.

I know you are more laid back about this, but I don't know why you don't just go for it. You say it's no big deal and you're planning on her not wanting R with you. So why not just go for it and lay down the ultimatum? What do you have to lose? It seems like both of you don't want to let go, maybe it's time for some pursuit. You say you're such a different guy, well this would be different. And if she says no, then you just smile and let her know that if she needs anything in the future that you might be busy. Then it's left foot right foot, on out the door.

Of course, what works for me doesn't necessarily work for you. I am praying for you.


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Well I decided to use her invite as an opportunity to take her to dinner. I really didn't just want to go to her house for a fire again. So I asked her to dinner and she accepted. So we will be going out to dinner Friday night. I'll keep you all posted.


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Originally Posted by ItHurts
Well I decided to use her invite as an opportunity to take her to dinner. I really didn't just want to go to her house for a fire again. So I asked her to dinner and she accepted. So we will be going out to dinner Friday night. I'll keep you all posted.


BAM! Well done. I am proud of you.

However, what is the state of the other lady?


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Hi Steve,
Thanks. Things are okay with the new lady too. Neither of us wants anything formal for now so we just enjoy each other's company. But we agreed for now that we both can see other people too and see where it goes.


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Good to hear. Make sure to use the Sex Panther cologne before you go. wink


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Hahahaha oh man LMAO! That's great ovrrnbw LOL! I'll be sure to douse myself in it! Here I was planning to use my Old Spice because they say if my grandfather didn't wear it I wouldn't be here LOLOL!


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IH-make sure if you are pouring drinks to give her an extra shot of the "panty remover elixir" - satisfaction guaranteed or your money and panties back!! LOL


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Well she is a very sexual woman and if she's not dating anyone I'm sure she is...wanting...and yours truly will forever have an edge with her in that department. There is a method to my madness! wink


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Originally Posted by ItHurts
Well she is a very sexual woman and if she's not dating anyone I'm sure she is...wanting...and yours truly will forever have an edge with her in that department. There is a method to my madness! wink


You were in the same bed, in the same room while she was changing, she took off her bra while you gave her a back rub. If what you say above is true something is not adding up. Either you're really good at blowing your own horn or she's really not in to you at all other than just being friends.

Time to man up and put an end to this excruciating madness once and for all. Time to man up!

Good luck!

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Watch it IH! LH is aiming for the heads here!


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