Gordie 22 eight months after she dropped the D

[ovrrnbw]

Hi Gordie,

You know I have no advanced DB'ing advice for you. I won't pressure you or tell you what to do. I just hope that at some point you let go of all your worries, all your fears, and become ok with being yourself at all times. I don't know, but it seems like you are so suppressed and subdued. Well let that bird out of it's cage.

Now I wonder if I'm the "friend" the MWD wrote about that wants you to feel better so that I feel better. I don't know. But you were there for me at my hardest times and I just want to see you at peace, see you happy. I hope that day comes.

[sjohns6]

Gordie, how are you today?

[Gordie]

OneArt

I love what your wrote about no longer wanting to research and wanting your own peace

I have been thinking a lot about that

SBJ

Thank you so much

I do feel like I am in uncharted territory

And depending upon my conscience to guide me

And depending upon God to be my source of patience

Over

Yes I have been getting better each month

But as OneArt and you both picked up

I am still seeking peace

SJohn6

So good to hear from you

I had a good day thank you for asking

[Gordie]

I have been praying for guidance and here is where I have heard

1. Fear not
2. Seek peace
3. Forgive without conditions
4. Keep no record of wrongs
5. Offer love
6. Judge not
7. Do not worry
8. Follow your conscience
9. Pray for what you desire
10. Believe it will be given

All of the above is easier said then done

[Gerda]

9 and 10, the hardest ones of all. A friend of mine at church keeps encouraging me to just ask for what I want, just ask. So i keep asking, but rather timidly. 10 seems impossible most of the time. My faith is smaller than a mustard seed in Whoville.

[Gordie]

I know patience is the key

But I confess I have days where I am tired of being patient

I just get tired

I get tired of the criticism

I get tired of the lack of affection

I get tired by the absence of reciprocity

But then I remember that things are better than before

I remember that I am standing for my marriage

Standing for my family

I do love my w

I felt like telling her that this week and I did

And she looked at me and said I love you too

[neffer]

My son comes to the bedroom and asks why am I tearing...I’m a disgrace...time to stay away from the forum for today.

You are the best G!

[peacetoday]

Gordie

I love the guidance you heard--pretty amazing and TY for sharing it

especially liked # 10

I think we all have issues with really believing for what we want
It has to be a mental exercise we practice because we believe what we see and what is in front of us

If we pray and we don't see it is evolving , we lose faith
but for those that can hold on to belief, we sometimes hear miracles in their lives
from the bible and in the world-

yes easier said than done
one day at a time

[OneArt]

I read another board where there is a man who reconciled with his wife and he says the most amazing stuff.

Recently he said he found himself and his kids on one side of an abyss and his wife on the other. While they had all survived and were grateful to be alive, they were on opposite sides and had to find out how to come together.

You can do it Gordie. Stop focusing on the before. Stop focusing on the now. Focus on the future and the baby steps that will allow all of you to meet again (even if, as usual, your "half" is the bigger journey). I do think there is a place in the future beyond the pain and the need to keep score and the extra travels you have endured will bring you greater strength and happiness.

[Gerda]

OneArt, I am very interested in what you said here and wonder if you can repost the whole post about the abyss. Maybe you can stick it on my thread?