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Walked out for ow #2806170
08/10/18 01:31 PM
08/10/18 01:31 PM
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My H and I have been together almost 17 years. We have had our bumps, but what marriage hasn't. Back in January, we had gotten into an argument about him working so much and us not spending enough time together. I said I did not want to argue anymore and if this was how it was going to be then we should not do this any longer. He ended up getting down on his knees and said "you have given me a million chances...all I am asking for is a million and one." He had done dumb stupid stuff over the years and we have had hard times. When he came home from Iraq in 2009 it was so hard. I think that is mainly what he is referring to by all the chances.
Moving along after this we started spending much more time together. In Feb, he went and bought him and myself new wedding rings. He spent quite a bit on mine. When it came, he was over the moon excited. Things were going great..or so I thought.
June 25th, he was supposed to pick up our son from work at 2. I couldnt because I was working until 6. He texted me at 1:30 to tell me yeah I cant do it. We got in an argument and that was it. I came home and he wasnt speaking to me. He never came up to bed that night either. The next morning something told me to look at the phone bill and my life flashed before my eyes. A number I never knew was all over the phone bill from morning till night. I called him and he said it was just a friend. Then told me it was a 27 yr old girl he met at a job site. Then told me he thinks we need to end things. I was floored!!
He came home that night and we decided to work things out. THat day she called him and then he called me and said no we cant work this out. He left that night to go stay with his mom. 3 days later he came home. He started saying is this all there is to life?? Said his mind was messed up and he couldnt hold a thought in his head and he felt like everything was spinning. He starting looking up things and found MLC. He started crying and said that is how I feel. He cried and I held him and told him I would take anything he threw at me and I wasnt going anywhere. I would stand by him no matter what. He said he wanted to be with me and fight through this.
The next day he said he couldnt do it and needed to leave. Thats when I found he was still talking to her...just as a friend. I called bs.

Next couple weeks was I love you but..I am not in love with you. He kept saying he loved me but he was so confused. He said he stopped talking to her. He didnt want to be with anyone bc his head so messed up. He said he was afraid of everything. One night I asked him. What are you most afraid of......"that I will wake from this and you wont be there." I said I loved him and I would wait. His emotions were all over. He wasnt talking to our teenage boys or seeing them. If he came near the house, he would panic. Head constantly in his hands. Starting drinking more..

July 20th..I had lied to get him to tell me the truth about the girl. I found that he had been sleeping with her. The kids had told him if he had anything to do with her they wouldnt speak to him. I contacted her and told her she was causing a divide between him and his sons. I also told her he slept with me bc he did. She ended things with him bc of him sleeping with me (his wife) He instantly snapped. Told me he didnt love me and wanted a divorce.

He ended up talking to her again and now he sleeps there and has minimal contact with his kids. His son spoke with him on the phone and said pls take time to yourself and be with me and my brother and leave her alone. I wont have anything to do with you as long as she is around. THe man that has always loved his family so dearly told his son.."thats your choice..sorry you feel that way" and hasnt spoken to him since.

My son did end up contacted the girl. She is 27 my son is 15. He told her how hurt he was that his dad chose her over him. How he wanted his dad and asked her to please think about his family since she has two little children. She told him she was sorry he felt that way. She never wanted to come between him and his dad but this was how it is.

Everyone keeps saying this isnt him. Everything he is doing goes against everything he believes in. Ppl tell me he will regret it. I dont know. I am so lost and heartbroken.

So sorry this was so long. Please any incite would be great!!

H 36
W 37
S 17
S 15
M 16 yrs together 17

Re: Walked out for ow [Re: lost12] #2809523
08/28/18 09:27 PM
08/28/18 09:27 PM
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If you want support I am in Surviving the Big D.

I recently supported someone in the UK in a Similiar position, the judge dismissed the case.

I think it will be ok, hold tight.

V


Everyone who wills can hear their inner voice. It is within everyone. Gandhi
V 64, WAW



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