he was married in 2013, had 2 kids, divorced last year. The reason being? "It just wasn't working" They are very amicable.
To most, this is a good case scenario. To me? He's the type to throw in the towel when things aren't perfect. They had babies, for goodness sakes, how does it "just not work?"
I'm with you, girl, the words "amicable divorce" almost always makes me pass up someone's profile, even though I imagine there MIGHT be some amicable divorces out there. But usually I assume those are the words of the WAS. And yes, with little kids, how do you not try harder?
Now I suppose, he could be a gentleman who is not willing to step out and say "she was a lesbian" or "she was an alcoholic". But yeah, I'd be asking him a lot of questions.
(I HOPE, for your sake, he's something like the doctor who came to our office yesterday - we are ALL besotted with him. Movie star handsome black Stanford grad with a super nice demeanor - my staff can't stop drooling lol).
Tomorrow night is the date! We spoke on the phone for an hour the other night. I got some more info on the divorce thing. He is quite well-lived this guy. We did really hit it off in convo and he texted me yesterday that he is finding himself pretty excited for the date. If anything, we are going to a really neat place which should be fun. I am even breaking out my new black dress.
At least he has been pre screened and I am not walking into the complete unknown. We shall see how it goes.
He didn't get into much detail yet. Basically they were an older couple when they got together, and she is a highly successful CEO. She makes 4x as much as him, but he also makes a lot of money. He said she kind of got married and had kids because that's what she was supposed to and she just didn't want to be married. She was also resentful of the fact she made more money even though he makes a very comfortable living.
Unfortunately they were an awful match. I know morally when you have kids, that you shouldn't have the luxury of deciding you wrong for eachother. But she didn't want to be married and he couldn't fight it.
Amicable means they get along, but they aren't friends. Which I think is better than them being besties.
OK G, I found it....you silently lurking over here I am surprised you guys got into the whole D conversation. The last two girls I have chatted with have not even asked.
OK G, I found it....you silently lurking over here I am surprised you guys got into the whole D conversation. The last two girls I have chatted with have not even asked.
I'm glad we did, because it did bug when I found out he married in 2013, had 2 kids and just got divorced.
If you want a good laugh, I'll tell you my best OLD story.
I go on a date with this guy, not too attracted, but whatever. He mentions that he sees on my profile about my longest relationship being 10 years, so he inquired on the date. I simply told him I was divorced. So I asked him about the 10 year relationship he mentions on his profile.
He tells me that relationship was with God. He just left the priesthood 6 months prior! Trying to hide my shock was not easy. When he called me "Hot" during the date I was grossed out, I have to admit. You can tell he was ready to go for his first time!
Well, yeah I can understand why you would wonder about that. Definitely some red flags!
I am sure the priest had some pent up frustration that he needed to release......too funny! I actually feel kind of sorry for whoever was the recipient of that I also don't think you should be calling someone "hot" or handing out too many compliments on your first date.......maybe a "You like nice tonight" or "I really like that dress" would be about as far as I would go.
The girl I am going out with on Saturday I hadn't spoke to since Sunday so we went 3 days without speaking. I did tell her I would get in touch with her as we got closer to Saturday but I didn't give her a specific time to reach out. I think some times there is too much texting that goes back and forth which seems to kill some attraction. It's like why even have the date when you already know everything there is to know.
That is why I called that teacher out of the blue on the phone. She would take 2 to 3 days to respond to my emails, she did text my phone and gave me her number but if she was really that interested she wouldn't have waited that long. So I called to tip my toe in the water and when she didn't return my call that is all I needed to know.
I also don't think you should be calling someone "hot" or handing out too many compliments on your first date.......maybe a "You like nice tonight" or "I really like that dress" would be about as far as I would go.
I'm not so sure you are correct about this Joe and if some of the things I've read are correct, you are not. They claim that the "you look nice tonight" types of comments will put you in the nice guy friend zone with many women. G would have been grossed out regardless of what he said. It's not that he called her hot, it's that he just left the priesthood. Lol.
But again, I'm no expert on women - ain't that the truth. Lol. Maybe G can prove her perspective. You certainly have to guage who you are with, but I really believe as I've read that well delivered, respectful but still stimulating comments help to build attraction.
DonH Midwest Me 56 WAW-EXW 55 Met 11/95 / Married 5/00 Bomb 6/20/05 / She Filed on 6/2/06 / Divorced on 10/9/06 4 who'd qualify as GF since D & dated about 25 women since D
I am surprised you guys got into the whole D conversation. The last two girls I have chatted with have not even asked.