Ballast this may help I read recently that- When things seem to be at their worst it allows for God to work in a miraculous way so that he may enrich you with gifts far greater than you can imagine.
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H53/W51, R-ing 4/'18
"Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires"-Sg.of Sg 2:7
"So oftentimes it happens,that we live our lives in chains, & we never even know we have the key"-Eagles III 1:3
Acc...nothing I can say but yep, point taken. I completely just thought I was stating a shared realization. I do see the pursuit in it now that you point it out. Should be left up to her to experience and her own opinion.
The maiden name changes on social media hurt me, especially my hope. Such a small thing but it hurt for sure.
Ballast- My W never used fb now she opened an account using her maiden name and she has not put anything in the relationship status yet. I dagger to the heart. I feel your pain. Stay strong!
M51 w50 T-20Yrs M-16Yrs S15- mad at W for not trying and giving up 1 Awesum dog BD 10/31/17 separate rooms 02/08/18 wife moved out 05/17/18
Seriously struggling today...feeling like not saying anything towards her and her anger/not talking has any chance with her to be drifting away...sandi's reflections thread really hit home with me this morning especially hearing her talk about her personal experience with TV and pillow talk over which I feel like I completely failed my W on. And now with W and I separated, nothing I can do to 180 on that. For several others that I recognize in myself I plan to work on those as best I can, but still with her not seeing me, her appreciating those I wonder if she'll be able to notice. She left, doesn't want to talk and even with that reality I'm beating myself up thinking this was all my fault. Truly felt like I was complete crap after reading that reflections thread.
I read some other sites and have some friends who say, "you need to tell her how you feel, don't let her walk without knowing how you feel". I hold against doing that, but during this point where I'm not reaching out to her and she seems completely angry and done with me...I know ACC would say it's the lack of control that's bugging me.
Do you really think that she doesnt know how you feel?
I get the feeling of wanting to express your love, or willingness to wait for her, because I feel the same urge each and every day. But I hold off because she knows that I love her. Pushing that on her when she isnt ready for it will just push her further away.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
Me: 38 W:31 Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4 M: 10 years T:12 years BD:Jan 3, 2018 W moved out: Apr 13,2018 Filed for D: Jun 2018 D final: Sep 2019
