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Expect more frustration venom too. A frustrated addict is a site to behold. Rock bottom will come sooner and cause less damage.

This is the last time I will say this but please no further donations to the cause, it's not because it's not something you want but because it's something she needs to fund her addiction.

Fine if it's her stuff of course.

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Originally Posted By: mtb1981
Can you please help me? I wouldnt ask if I had anyone else to ask. Im sorry...

This is what she just sent now. Can she be serious? Not my job anymore since she left me. How do I respond to this?...


Sorry I missed this. But it will happen again ok?

This is why.....

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I just got off the phone with the L and told him to hold off for now. I have 2 main reasons for this...

So my thinking is your actions have encouraged this.

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Originally Posted By: Vanilla

This is the last time I will say this but please no further donations to the cause, it's not because it's not something you want but because it's something she needs to fund her addiction.

Fine if it's her stuff of course.

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You are absolutely right. I don't plan on letting her take anything else...


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Originally Posted By: Vanilla
Originally Posted By: mtb1981
Can you please help me? I wouldnt ask if I had anyone else to ask. Im sorry...

This is what she just sent now. Can she be serious? Not my job anymore since she left me. How do I respond to this?...


Sorry I missed this. But it will happen again ok?

This is why.....

You wrote:
I just got off the phone with the L and told him to hold off for now. I have 2 main reasons for this...

So my thinking is your actions have encouraged this.

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I had a moment of weakness earlier this week. L is on vacation until the 28th and won't be able to review the paperwork until he gets back. Me telling him to hold off essentially had no effect. The paperwork has all been drafted. It's just waiting for him to get back to go over it. I'm going forward with it all. W has no info on any of this. She still doesn't know that I filed...


Me: 38
W:31
Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4
M: 10 years
T:12 years
BD:Jan 3, 2018
W moved out: Apr 13,2018
Filed for D: Jun 2018
D final: Sep 2019

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Can you please help me? I wouldnt ask if I had anyone else to ask. Im sorry...

This is what she just sent now. Can she be serious? Not my job anymore since she left me. How do I respond to this?...


Sorry I missed this. But it will happen again ok?

This is why.....

You wrote:
I just got off the phone with the L and told him to hold off for now. I have 2 main reasons for this...

So my thinking is your actions have encouraged this.

V


I had a moment of weakness earlier this week. L is on vacation until the 28th and won't be able to review the paperwork until he gets back. Me telling him to hold off essentially had no effect. The paperwork has all been drafted. It's just waiting for him to get back to go over it. I'm going forward with it all. W has no info on any of this. She still doesn't know that I filed...


Even more reason!

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You have me confused, V. If I did something wrong, I need to know so I don't do it again. I called the law office and told them to file while L was already gone on vacation. His assistant drafted the paperwork and nothing can be done until he gets back to review it. When I called earlier this week and told them to wait, it had no effect because nothing could happen anyway while he was gone. When he gets back, we are going ahead with the process. W is not aware of any of this...

I have made a resolute decision to not give her anything until the court says I have to. I will not be her enabler...

Thank you for your advice, Vanilla. I appreciate your thoughts...


Me: 38
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Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4
M: 10 years
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Another fun story...

Last night W called my dad and asked him if he would pay her to take a drug test. I don't know if I mentioned it in an earlier thread, but my dad offered to pay her to take a drug test a month or so ago. She refused. Now she's calling him saying she's hard up for money and wanting to take the drug test for some cash. Dad told her he wasn't interested in that anymore. That ship has sailed...


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Kids: S16(mine from previous R), D10, S9, S4
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T:12 years
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W just sent me another text...

Are you continuing to ignore me again or are you an adult today??


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M: 10 years
T:12 years
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watching the fluctuation between the nice lady Act and the accusatory witch. It's pretty insane to observe. they definitely act differently but I think if you ever put your wife in my right wife in the I think if you ever put your wife and my wife in the same room it might tear a hole in space-time


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Sorry for the stuttering voice text


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2 Major breakups.
2 Rebounds
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