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I replied to MIL

ME: "Whatever he wants. Its his hair, his choice. He has already expressed his opinion that he'd like it short as you said, lets just stick with what he wants"


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I was very tempted to say "this is a childcare question and something she could ask me herself, she needs to stop hiding behind you MIL"

but i know that would have been counter productive as satisfying as it would have been to say.


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Two things about MIL's text stand out to me and piss me off a bit.

1.) "He keeps saying he wants it short"

So why are you asking me anything at all? He already answered the question for you, and he is 3. Fairly sure you two (WW and MIL) can figure that out for yourselves, Yea?

2.) "She still wants it a bit longer, but with the summer coming and him expressing his opinion she wanted input from you too"

S3 has already said he wants it short, I said as much last week as well. So why are they asking? Oh wait. the "She still wants it a bit longer"
Of course. Because what she wants is clearly more important than what her traumatized 3yo son wants.
oh wait, i forgot. What SHE wants is the only thing on Earth that matters, to her or anyone, Right?

Ain't the Sun a prick for not asking her permission to rise each day?

This was already discussed, she just doesn't want to cut his hair short, and she doesnt care what he wants or what would be easier for him.


All this over a fekkin haircut.
*Facepalm*


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You nailed it. She is the epitome of selfish as most WWs are.

I wouldn't doubt if MiL comes back with "But, but, but WW really wants it longer." LOL


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Originally Posted By: Steve85
You nailed it. She is the epitome of selfish as most WWs are.

I wouldn't doubt if MiL comes back with "But, but, but WW really wants it longer." LOL


That would be confrontational. What will happen is they will just have 2" taken off his hair and call it "Short".
Bear in mind his haircut is being done at WW's work.
The Hen House as i like to call it.

If that happens hes going to a barber.


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Maybe she just wants to upset you before going into court.


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Originally Posted By: sandi2
Maybe she just wants to upset you before going into court.


I hope so. Guess what hun. It didnt work. wink

If shes trying to upset me before court, all that does is tell me shes uneasy about it.


Between all the rock climbers on this forum im fairly certain we can produce a rope she can go piss up.


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reading back on today's posts I just noticed that there was some sort of bitter or angry comment included in each one. I feel at this point I have used my anger for its best purposes and definitely need to start letting it go. reading back on those posts I sounded Petty and bitter


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Yea OrangeK, I get why you're worked up. But if they planned on getting under your skin, it worked. I'm working on detaching better as well. Good luck.


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Oddly doesn't feel like them getting under my skin to me in fact I was just out talking to my roommate about how much I worried in my previous court dates and the only thing I was really worrying about was the possibility of seeing her in person and I know that's going to happen tomorrow and honestly I have barely thought about it all day


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Oh shoot I just realized you filed, OrangeK? Am I reading that right?

Are you trying to save the MR? Or dissolve it?


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