Thanks everyone! Yes I agree we are all doing some mind reading here for sure. I do want to say that she can't really hurt me again per se because I already have my own life and inamntoall used to living without her. I believe that one day she will realizr she belongs with me but whether or not it's too late by then is not my concern. I am certainly not waiting around for her. If I have an opportunity to date, I'm going to. I have no limits on me. Do I hope she comes back? Well sure I do but its not like I'm going to be miserable if she doesn't. Whatever is going to happen will happen.
Now as far as what's going on with her. Not sure she had someone else. She had only been home a few months now so even if she is seeing someone i don't know that it would be anything that serious. Also we mustn't forget that she opted to contact me literally less than 24 hours after I was single again. The more time that goes by the more I look back on that timing and think it had to be intentional. She also made a point to stop at my work and ask how my talk with Mary went. So there's little things like that. Also when I initially told her I broke up with Mary she asked why and I said I was tired of her BS and she didn't appreciate my awesomeness. She got a laugh out of the awesomeness comment and said something like "I hear you about people's BS, Peeps are full of it." That suggested to.me that she wasn't pleased with her relationship (s). Past or present relationships she may have been referring to is unknown but that remark sticks out in my mind to.
In any event thank you all so, so much for your insight and thoughts here. They mean a lot. We shall see what happens next on this adventure together!
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
Hi everyone. Well I woke up a few minutes ago to a text from WAW. It was simply "LOL" and a picture of a Chiquita banana sticker. As a joke throughout our marriage I used to stick them in weird places on her for her to find randomly...such as on the bathroom mirror, on the TV, on her car keys, etc. So I assume she was eating a banana this morning, saw the sticker, and thought of me. I haven't responded yet and will wait a few hours before doing so. Any thoughts on how I should reply? Hope everyone is well.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
That sounds like a good sign! Kind of odd though to just randomly text you like that. Maybe she had been waiting for you to contact her and then when you didn't she wanted to send a little reminder that she's still there.
Hard to say without mind reading. The text came in about 3 hours ago so I'll wait another couple hours and then reply with some funny comeback like...,"After 4 years you fianlly found the last one LOL!" or something along those lines I guess.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
If she accepts great shes interested. If she does not her loss and yo go back to no contact and move on with your life. At least you will know where you stand.
These childish games are getting you no where but in the friend zone.
Okay so here's the scoop. She asked what I was up to tonight. Told her I was working. I offered tomorrow (Friday) but she had plans. Then she came back and asked me about Saturday. I said okay I'll buy us dinner. She said cool how about take out pizza and she'll make us something to go with it. I said great. I said I'll bring a movie or something and she said great I look forward to it. So as of now we are on for Saturday night...provided she doesn't cancel again. We'll see if this all really goes down. I'll keep you all posted of course.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
I have to say, even I thought it would be a long time before I heard from her again. Whenever I woke up and saw her name in my texts I was surrprised. Further, it was nice to see her share yet another happy marriage memory. Never in a million years would I have seen this day be a reality...except in dreams. Yet here I am, slowly reconnecting with WAW. Now R is still a ways off and certainly not a sure thing but the way she has been since I've become single is hard to ignore. She's been so persistent and consistent... especially since the first time we laid eyes on each other for the first time in 4 years...in keeping me close. It's pretty obvious to me at this point she is pursuing...and that's hard for my forever-skeptic mind to wrap my head around...like I'm waiting for the floor to drop out from under me.
In any event, I'll keep you my friends here posted.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14
