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Saw your post in ballast's thread. There is no such thing as too much time. Find ItHurts current thread. Been divorced for 4 years with NC and now she's pursuing him. It's never too late.


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I hope this posts...I am seeing W for first time in a month tomorrow night. She said she wanted to get some in person time? No idea if that is a good or bad thing. What do I need to do?


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I hope this posts...I am seeing W for first time in a month tomorrow night. She said she wanted to get some in person time? No idea if that is a good or bad thing. What do I need to do?

Mirror her,

mostly listen, validate, and let her set the pace.

You didnt break her and you cant fix her.


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Originally Posted By: Ste7e
I hope this posts...I am seeing W for first time in a month tomorrow night. She said she wanted to get some in person time? No idea if that is a good or bad thing. What do I need to do?


Cadet's response is spot-on. Don't assume anything, and don't be surprised if she cancels or just doesn't even show up. This happens so much it's crazy, a WAW will say she wants to talk about something and may even set a date for it, and then NO FOLLOW-THROUGH AT ALL.


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Ha yeah she actually scheduled for last Wed and no called no showed. Texted the next morning said she fell asleep at 7pm and slept through. She tried to schedule for last night but I told her I was busy.
More about mirroring?


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Well she did come over...it was not with good news.
She wanted to make arrangements to get the rest of her stuff from the house and set a date for getting and signing divorce papers.
I validated like crazy...but she is hell bent on divorce.
I am crushed now what do I do?


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The worst part about the night was that she came over and we went and had dinner and it was a very pleasant evening until we got back to the house and she ripped into her desires to completely seperate and fast track things. She wants the divorce to be finalized and to coencide with her starting a new job in 3 months.


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