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Me:39 W:36
S:12 D:9
T:14 M:11
Separation:sep. 1 2017
D filed oct. 2017
D finalized july 2018
OM confirmed feb 2018
D finalized July 2018

The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
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It is sad to see this WW cycle. Hoping that the WW wouldn't crash and burn totally. Since there still is love for the WW after all. It is hard to see her risking everything in her life. Not only her family and relationship but her business and friendships also. To see all this chewing her down little by little. And her realizing it but not wanting to do anything about it. And there is little she can do about it. And knowing that there is absolutely nothing you can do but to watch it happen and take it's course and pray that she'll make it out in one piece. No matter what happens in the end, they have taught us a lot. They make us look deep inside ourselves, change our perspectives, change who we are. Make us better. And that is something to be grateful of.


Me:39 W:36
S:12 D:9
T:14 M:11
Separation:sep. 1 2017
D filed oct. 2017
D finalized july 2018
OM confirmed feb 2018
D finalized July 2018

The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
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One thing I discovered, I loved the G but I love me more.

I love not being part of the cycle of destruction.

Petri, you are moving to observer mode, good for you. There is no need to bail out WW, no longer your job, yours is to keep your boat afloat.

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Thank you V. I now truly understand that there are things one just can't fix. W has never had to deal with her things by herself. Some has always bailed her. Mostly her mom. And her mom is trying to do it now also. Doing things for her, helping with her finance. She just needs to learn responsibility.


Me:39 W:36
S:12 D:9
T:14 M:11
Separation:sep. 1 2017
D filed oct. 2017
D finalized july 2018
OM confirmed feb 2018
D finalized July 2018

The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
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Last night I had to be a therapist for Ws BFF. She is going through her own D. This is a good way to learn to listen. Only to listen not fixing things. As it appears I'm actually good at it. BFF only briefly mentioned W. BFF is worried about W. I just told her that this is something W has to go through for herself. I told her that I just need to move forward with my own life. And hope that W doesn't ruin her life completely.


Me:39 W:36
S:12 D:9
T:14 M:11
Separation:sep. 1 2017
D filed oct. 2017
D finalized july 2018
OM confirmed feb 2018
D finalized July 2018

The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
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It's funny how W can act like the Saturday never happened. It's been like that the whole time. She reacts and the next minute is like nothing happened.


Me:39 W:36
S:12 D:9
T:14 M:11
Separation:sep. 1 2017
D filed oct. 2017
D finalized july 2018
OM confirmed feb 2018
D finalized July 2018

The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
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P,

Stop posting this pointless drivel about what your W is doing and let's here about some of your goals.

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Need quick guidance! W just texted that she wants to soend night at our home while I'm there. Watch a movie, doesn't want to leave the kids just yet.


Me:39 W:36
S:12 D:9
T:14 M:11
Separation:sep. 1 2017
D filed oct. 2017
D finalized july 2018
OM confirmed feb 2018
D finalized July 2018

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I am sorry I have plans tonight.

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That won't cut it b/c I'm with kids. She knows I don't have plans.


Me:39 W:36
S:12 D:9
T:14 M:11
Separation:sep. 1 2017
D filed oct. 2017
D finalized july 2018
OM confirmed feb 2018
D finalized July 2018

The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.
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