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[gw5263]

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[gw5263]

So last night she continued her rant until I walked out and got in the truck. Her main problem was me telling her how disrespectful some of her behaviors were and how she couldn’t understand why I felt that way. I broke it down for her real quick. She was particularly bothered by. Me not allowing FaceTime. She said she saw nothing wrong with it. I asked if she would bring OM in our house and have sex, she said no because we are still married. I explained to her that facetiming in our home was bringing him into our home and I won’t tolerate that. I also explained that her using a dildo in our bed in our home while fantasizing about him was disrespectful and I wouldn’t tolerate that either. At this point she went all over the map with things and I told her you are unable to understand how wrong all of this is so this conversation is pointless. I walked out of the room and went for a drive. This morning I’m feeling an overwhelming desire to bag up her sack of goodies and pitch them in the burn barrel...... don’t know what problems it may cause but it is a sore spot for me. Right or wrong I feel like it is disrespectful as hell for her to lay in my bed in my house and pleasure herself while thinking of him. Is this the right frame of mind or petty on my part? No idea but it’s how I feel

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GW,

Fire up the barrel and burn all the stuff. Like I said before, she knows all that stuff you mentioned is disrespectful. WW defense is to play stupid. And make you come off as crazy and overbearing.

[gw5263]

Talked to a new friend today who just happens to be a legal officer in the bay. He’s in the same boat as all of us here, no pun intended. Anyway, I related my ditch and he interrupted and said that things didn’t jive regarding OM. He said the timelines for his service were off, his retirement date was wrong, and he basically said he was lying about a lot of things relating to him. This has me concerned that he went to these lengths to lie to my w what else is he hiding? She is convinced he is working second shift for the last month, when his position doesn’t have a second shift. She is planning on divorcing me and moving to live with this man, possibly with my kids depending on court when it comes to that. She only knows what he has told her on the phone, and what she saw for 7 days. I’m now more concerned about safety than the A. What does anyone else think? Should I bring this up to her?or let it be. I hate what she’s doing but I don’t want anything to happen to her

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GW,

Of course she knows nothing about him. You said so yourself. Phone conversations and 7 days. So yes your W is about to possibly get a rude awakening. And it will likely affect your children. Telling your W will only push her further towards him. But you should research the guy who is going to be around your children. Then proceed accordingly.

[joejoe1]

GW,

Stop it. Leave her be. You bringing up problems that the OM has going to do what. Just make her move defensive. She dont want to hear that from you.

Him lieing about his job Don't put your kids in harms way. Seems to me you want to take this opportunity to throw shade at the OM. It won't work or help your Sitch. Your W is going to have to have reality hit her in the face. And it wont come from you.

If the court gives you 50/50 custody its nothing you can do to stop your aW from doing what she wants to do.

You have beem DBing really good. Don't back track from listening to some guy who is going off of what he think is going on.

Worry about you and your kids.

I don't want to sound to harsh but. Pls don't go down that road.

[gw5263]

She can’t take them out of state without a signed agreement from me, which I refuse to sign. As far as throwing shade, no, I’m concerned. I could give two forks about him now. I worry about her and what she may possibly expose my kids to. That’s all. And the friend I talked to works at the same base , went from chief to officer, and just mentioned that the timeline is off on this guy. I’m concerned nothing more. I was at one point obsessed withhim and hell bent on destroying him by turning him in and getting his clearance taken. After I came here I realized all I really wanted was revenge and not justice so I dropped it. I’ve tried to flush him from my mind

[joejoe1]

GW,

What do you think telling your W is going to do? Do you think she is gl2ing to stop wanting to be with OM after you provide that info? Do you think she will take that info back to OM and interrogate him on it? And if she does, do you think OM, is going to say, "yeah all the things your H said is absolutely true?".

I think if you tell your W these things its going to make you look weak and unattractive.

How is this information putting your kids in harms way.

I'm on active duty right now. I have been in 16 and half years. I'm a officer.

Do you mind providing us with the info and I can maybe help provide you with my opinion?

[gw5263]

Well for starters he’s a single enlisted man living in a three bedroom base house. Navy housing only allows for singles to live in base housing with a dependent child or elderly parent. He’s 46 and claims 30 years in. That would make him 16 at enlistment. He tells her he works second shift.shoreduty with his mos don’t do shift work. He’s been married x3 and say none of them can get his retirement. The only time she can call is between 5 and7 pm.anytime outside that he’s in a secluded spot. He’s probably still married. Which doesn’t matter. What matters is he’s talked her into divorce and she plans on taking the kids and going to him. As soon as she makes a movethat way it will blow up and my kids will possibly be caught up . The guy I’m talking with is an o5 at the sub base in Connecticut

Joe joe, I really don’t know whT to think . It feels like something is wrong,she still hasn’t called him. A friend thinks maybeshebrokw up withhim and has OM2 already. She’s been on messenger a lot lately especially at night. Jedirsnt ise it.andtodayi had a blow out. Had to call her to come get me and I kept her car till1 when she and the kids got off school. I overheard her tell my daughter that Orioles her plans for today.soijavennonisea what is going on something just feels different about this whole sitch. Like it Star Wars, adisturbance intheforce. My gut is screaming at me. No idea why

[joejoe1]

GW,

He's def married. You can't be single living in base housing. And he's giving her block times to call her. Your W knows something is up. But she don't want her fantasy messed with.

If there is an OM2, you don't care. Worry about you and detaching.

Let her go. Have the cops on standby if she tries to leave with your kids. You can report her for kidnapping if you can prove she went further than she was suppose to with your kids.

Worry about not allowing the disrespect in your home. I don't think your W is going no where. She has the best of both worlds right now. She is comfortable.