The problem I’m having right now, is that my wife isn’t exhibiting any of those type behaviors she doesn’t yell she doesn’t scream we don’t argue we get along just fine.
That's because she has the best of both worlds (cake eating). She has you supporting her, the kids 100% of the time and the OM. Why would she rock the boat?
Not putting up with her BS and A is not controlling it's called self respect.
I wouldn't wait until after the holidays it takes along time to go through anyway.
LH19, that is where I am. I contacted my L and he will begin to draw up the papers. She is adamant about divorce and not working on us. I cannot and will not tolerate this any longer. It has been 8 months of hell. She has destroyed our family with her selfish behavior. The children are suffering unnecessarily because of her actions. Her thought process is one sided and she doesn’t care. Since she wants this divorce maybe she should begin to feel what it will be like for her. Pay her own insurance, find a place to live, Provide her own health insurance, see how difficult it’s going to be for her. She makes a grand total of $800 a month and right now she has a $400 car payment and car insurance and health insurance then she’s left with $250 a month to live on but see how she plans on pulling that off. I’ve asked her several times how she planned on living and she said she would figure it out. She may have plans to move to Georgia to be with another man, but the children won’t go. The court will not allow it because it will cut into my visitation. In addition, I have the sought in official agreement stating that she can take the children out of state to be with him I will never do that. And I’ve done everything I could possibly do to try to save this, but ultimately she is the one that decides. I hope she’s making a good choice . It’s possible that the shock of being served with the papers in seeing it on paper will make it a reality for, as ate up with this as she is I doubt it. Sometimes you just have to let go
M 51 W 46 D14 S13 M 16yrs T17yrs BD 06/25/17 OM Confirmed 06/25/17, ILYBNILWY Did Sep for 1 month, moved back in due to W Finances
You know it’s funny, during one of our discussions she said that it was she was sorry that it came to this . She has all the power in the world to stop it but she refuses. I can’t do this anymore. I have to MoveOn for me and the children. She told me the her and other main broke up she would date someone on the street before she came back to me. That tells me everything I need to know. On top of that I found out she’s been talking to three or four other guys on messenger. She could never be trusted even if she came back I’ll be a fool to think so. I don’t know what change my wife in the person she is now but whatever it is is powerful. It’s a completely good honest trustworthy one and turned her in the something I’ve never seen before. Concerned with nothing but her own selfish needs. The only real worry I have an all this is the child custody. I’m going to go for full custody based on her walking a mile route for two hours to FaceTime every night I’m not home, or leaving them for a week in July, and her complete disregard for the family. That, and the fact she’s not financially able to provide a stable home for them. I would say it’s going to get pretty ugly before it ends.
M 51 W 46 D14 S13 M 16yrs T17yrs BD 06/25/17 OM Confirmed 06/25/17, ILYBNILWY Did Sep for 1 month, moved back in due to W Finances
She is a wayward, a truly ruthless self centered all about her to hell with the rest wayward. She actually showed what she is in a post—-“the woman you are becoming will cost you people, places, material things, spaces, and relationships. Choose her over everything”.
I just wanted to follow up on this comment you made earlier. What a truly horrible and selfish thing for her to say. Where did she post that?
I'm flabbergasted trying to wrap my brain around the mentality.
Me-47,XW-43 S13,S16 M:18 BD:4-23-17 W filed:7-17-17 (5 months of in-house separation hell) W moved out:1-6-18 D granted:2-15-18 Decree signed:3-29-18
I’m going to go for full custody based on her walking a mile route for two hours to FaceTime every night I’m not home, or leaving them for a week in July, and her complete disregard for the family. That, and the fact she’s not financially able to provide a stable home for them. I would say it’s going to get pretty ugly before it ends.
GW, Let the dust settle and get your emotions in check before you make that decision and also consult with a L. It will be hard for you to get full custody of your children in the court of law.
LH. I have an appointment with my lawyer next week. I know the odds of full custody are pretty far-fetched but I’m gonna see if I can get temporary full custody until she gets her self sorted out and settled in somewhere stable. My biggest fears that her and this guy break up and she has a parade of other men rolling through there that my kids have to deal with. She’s not ride anymore like I said an earlier post something powerful has taken her over and turn her out. It’s like Sandy said in one of her post. Girls gone wild
M 51 W 46 D14 S13 M 16yrs T17yrs BD 06/25/17 OM Confirmed 06/25/17, ILYBNILWY Did Sep for 1 month, moved back in due to W Finances
That is exactly how I feel with my W. OM might be out of the picture now, but W is willing to throw everything away for any man who shows any bit of attention. Which is a huge reason, I got the divorce papers drawn up. Also I have seen that same quote all over FB. Women are using that quote to justify screwing ober their families over "changing" themselves. Biggest b.s., I have ever heard.
