Awkward Situation Got Much Worse (part 3)

[Tate]

My situation is difficult to detach because one complaint of my W was that I eould do my own thing and not go out of town with her all the time to visit relatives. She takes the kids out of town literally every other weekend...20,000 miles per year on her car. She is gone so much she cannot keep up with even unpacking from the last trip before she leaves again. I would stay home to get things done.

So, I do not want her to see my GAL as more of the same. This has been a major sticking point in me GAL.

[MoveFrwd]

I would stay home to get things done.

How is GALing more of the same?

Did you GAL before while you declined to go out of town or just act as maid/housekeeper/landscaper?

[Tate]

I was thinking along the lines of me doing things other than being with my family on travels being more of the same. My kids are young, so me going out while they are home is leaving tge family to do my own thing...or not spending time with the kids.

[Tate]

Just to give a quick update on my situation...I believe my wife was just giving a knee jerk reaction to finding out that I told my sister what is going on. My W is still smart enough to know that a D is not going to get that knowledge back.

[25yearsmlc]

Just to give a quick update on my situation...I believe my wife was just giving a knee jerk reaction to finding out that I told my sister what is going on. My W is still smart enough to know that a D is not going to get that knowledge back.

not sure what you mean.

As for the kids and not going to visit, just curious have you ever gone? And Is it all really b/c you needed to stay behind?

How did she feel about that?

[25yearsmlc]

My BIL is lying to my sister, telling her he was on a different page than my W. I have seen the texts from both and know they were on the exact same page.

My Sister is in denial saying he just was not thinking.
She is also in denial as to how their marriage is doing...they are living like room mates also, but she thinks it is a phase.

God help your poor sister. UGH...

how long have they been m and do they have kids?

[Tate]

not sure what you mean.

As for the kids and not going to visit, just curious have you ever gone? And Is it all really b/c you needed to stay behind?

How did she feel about that?

I meant that getting a D is not hoing to undo me telling my sister...my W was mad I told her.

Yeas, I travel out of town a lot with my W and kids...just not every single weekend she does. Our families live in two other cities 1.5 and 4 hours away. I visit with my W for every holiday, including long weekends like Labor Day. My W goes to literally every Birthday party...for all 10 of our kids cousins and all 16 adults...literally every other weekend.

My wife probably wanted me to go with her all the time early on in our marriage, but I would stay home many times to paint rooms, catch up on work so I could be home earlier on weekdays, etc. More recently, she preferred for me to not be there on trips.

[25yearsmlc]

not to throw a wrench in the engine, but did you guys want to live back there?

Is it a job thing?

[Tate]

No. My wife and I both like living in the city we are in. My family is all 4 hours away. Her family is 1.5 to 4 hours away.

[Tate]

My W has not acted on her decision to file for a divorce. In the moment, I absolutely believed her, bit now I do not think she is going to file.

Part of her change of heart is that our computer died and our air conditioning went out since then. I fixed both...not that it is a teason to not divorce, but it shows her how much I do for her on a daily basis. She has never once thsnked me gor keeping the household running smoothly.