Previous Thread
Next Thread
Print Thread
Page 2 of 10 1 2 3 4 9 10
Rose888 #2764077 10/02/17 12:21 PM
Joined: Jan 2003
Posts: 18,913
Likes: 316
K
kml Offline
Member
Offline
Member
K
Joined: Jan 2003
Posts: 18,913
Likes: 316
Duct tape works well I hear.

kml #2764081 10/02/17 12:56 PM
Joined: Mar 2017
Posts: 1,979
Likes: 33
O
Member
Offline
Member
O
Joined: Mar 2017
Posts: 1,979
Likes: 33
You know you struggle with patience. This is such a great test for you. If you can get through this, you can get through anything.

OwnIt #2764130 10/03/17 02:57 AM
Joined: Feb 2017
Posts: 561
L
leahsue Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
L
Joined: Feb 2017
Posts: 561
kml- does it work on fingers on the texting pad? LOL My mouth I can control. It's the texting piece that usually gets me.

Rose- Today's Leah DOES thank both you and last night's Leah for STFU.

Ownit- I resisted.

I guess he realized at some point last night. This morning I had a text from him that just said "I totally $ucked up. I am so so sorry."

I have no idea if that means overall, our relationship, forgetting the anniversary, or any other random thing.

I feel nothing. Nothing at all. Not anger, really not even sadness. Just gratitude that none of this hurts as much as it did 10 months ago. And also gratitude that in another 10 months, it will hurt even less.

I won't respond to his text b/c there's nothing to say.


M-60 H-51
M-14 years
BD 12/26/16
S 1/1/17

"First the pain, then the rising."
Glennon Doyle Melton

leahsue #2764140 10/03/17 03:19 AM
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 13,511
Likes: 1
2
Member
Offline
Member
2
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 13,511
Likes: 1
Originally Posted By: leahsue
Just posting again to say Hi.

Struggling through my 13th wedding anniversary today, but so far, so good. I'm a strong little bit@h. I got this. smile (That's not to say a glass or two of wine won't be involved by bedtime tonight.)


Oh, sorry I missed this^^. ((( hugs )))


M: 57 H: 60
M: 35 yrs
S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
*2016*
X = "ALASKA 2.0"
GROUND HOG DAY
I File D 10/16
OW
DIV 2/26/2018
X marries OW 5/2016

= CLOSURE 4 ME
Embrace the Change
leahsue #2764142 10/03/17 03:27 AM
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 13,511
Likes: 1
2
Member
Offline
Member
2
Joined: Apr 2006
Posts: 13,511
Likes: 1
Originally Posted By: leahsue
kml- does it work on fingers on the texting pad? LOL My mouth I can control. It's the texting piece that usually gets me.

Rose- Today's Leah DOES thank both you and last night's Leah for STFU.

Ownit- I resisted.

I guess he realized at some point last night. This morning I had a text from him that just said "I totally $ucked up. I am so so sorry."

I have no idea if that means overall, our relationship, forgetting the anniversary, or any other random thing.

I feel nothing. Nothing at all. Not anger, really not even sadness. Just gratitude that none of this hurts as much as it did 10 months ago. And also gratitude that in another 10 months, it will hurt even less.

I won't respond to his text b/c there's nothing to say.



Well, my INTERNAL approach has wavered as you know. Thinking it all out first, even if I only give myself a minute, helps. We have had one 6 minute conversation about health insurance, in the past year.

Wow, reading that ^^ makes me shake my head.

He reached out to my brother right before my nieces big shebang wedding, and then my brother would text me...So I had texted h right before the wedding weekend so he'd stop reaching out to my brother = me, right before all the hoopla.

But I did NOT think it out in advance and I gotta admit it was partly to remind h that my huge hilarious family, whom he loved (I THINK??)

was still having a great time without him. That I was having a blast.

Petty? God yes. Getting sucked in? YES.

But at least it was effective in getting him to back off then. He's reached out to me twice since and I've struggled mightily - MIGHTILY - in wanting to text him back directly

but I refrained. (It was about a 51-49 "election" in my head).

Leah, Remember our wildly inappropriate concern that "we don't want to be rude" when we don't respond to a WAH later reaching out??

Yes, let's both remember^^^ it.

Turning a corner...yes you have.

There are a lot of corners in this maze, but since the overall trend is upward - it's good.

Sorry the week was hard. Really.



M: 57 H: 60
M: 35 yrs
S30,D28,D19
H off to Alaska 2006
Recon 7/07- 8/08
*2016*
X = "ALASKA 2.0"
GROUND HOG DAY
I File D 10/16
OW
DIV 2/26/2018
X marries OW 5/2016

= CLOSURE 4 ME
Embrace the Change
Joined: Feb 2017
Posts: 561
L
leahsue Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
L
Joined: Feb 2017
Posts: 561
For the LOVE, can we get a hurricane break? My mom is in Mobile and FREAKING out. Guess I'll head down to get her.

Have a good weekend, DB friends!


M-60 H-51
M-14 years
BD 12/26/16
S 1/1/17

"First the pain, then the rising."
Glennon Doyle Melton

leahsue #2764628 10/07/17 04:17 AM
Joined: Nov 2016
Posts: 2,605
G
Member
Offline
Member
G
Joined: Nov 2016
Posts: 2,605
Leah,

Congratulations on making it through the anniversary without texting and then not responding the next day. It’s really hard for me to resist reaching out to my stbx but you give me hope that I can resist. Sounds like you are doing great at minding your own business, literally! Great job.


Gordie 40s W 40s M20+ kids
2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
Gordie #2764639 10/07/17 07:22 AM
Joined: Feb 2017
Posts: 561
L
leahsue Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
L
Joined: Feb 2017
Posts: 561
Thanks, Gordie. It IS hard to resist reaching out. I fight it some days, and other days my anger makes me not even tempted. Today is NOT one of the anger days, though. I'm really missing him today. I think it's all the storm prep that I'm having to do, and thinking back to 4 weeks ago when he was here doing it all. Hard to believe he's the same person who stayed extra days 4 weeks ago to ride out the last hurricane with me, and since the missed anniversary, he's gone radio silent, even in the face of this storm.

It is what it is. Hang in there with NC. I keep believing the others here who say it will get easier.


M-60 H-51
M-14 years
BD 12/26/16
S 1/1/17

"First the pain, then the rising."
Glennon Doyle Melton

leahsue #2764925 10/10/17 04:31 PM
Joined: Mar 2017
Posts: 1,979
Likes: 33
O
Member
Offline
Member
O
Joined: Mar 2017
Posts: 1,979
Likes: 33
Hope things are getting a little easier. I know it is hard when there are tender moments (thankfully I have none of those).

Focus on the spicy little firecracker inside of you and get out there and live your life. That is what makes you happier and makes him sniff around.

OwnIt #2764955 10/11/17 03:53 AM
Joined: Feb 2017
Posts: 561
L
leahsue Offline OP
Member
OP Offline
Member
L
Joined: Feb 2017
Posts: 561
Thanks, girl. I needed that little push. You're exactly right. That IS what makes me happy. A busy, full life! I've got lots of GAL things planned through the weekend so I'm excited about that. smile


M-60 H-51
M-14 years
BD 12/26/16
S 1/1/17

"First the pain, then the rising."
Glennon Doyle Melton

Page 2 of 10 1 2 3 4 9 10

Moderated by  Cadet, DnJ, job, Michele Weiner-Davis 

Link Copied to Clipboard