I think I talked to him too much last night then didn't I. I should have just said yes fine and passed him over to the kids. Once he had spoken to them he wanted to speak to me again about some his car insurance which if he puts me on it will save him some money (well us ultimately because if he gets in debt it affects me and the kids). I sent him my details by text and he said he will sort it out.
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OW is liking stuff on FB again, I've asked him twice to tell her not to this is not a game this is my life but she did it again last night and it's a photograph that my H's friend has tagged him in and was taken on the night we got engaged!!
Would it be wrong of me to text him and tell him to tell her to stop doing it?
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I am actually fuming!!!!! He's filled his car up to take SKANK out for the day on our joint bank account when I have sorted out his own and his own credit card. How dare he!!!!!! I know I can't react now but please tell me it's OK to deduct this from his money when he gets paid on Friday and I have to give him what's left after the bills?
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I've just emailed him the spread sheet with the bills breakdown. Now to wait for the repercussions he isn't going to happy. Hope they're not planning anywhere expensive this weekend
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SJW, you're spinning.. your snooping on him, your tracking his movements and playing mind movies of worst possible scenarios. You really need to try and stop all of that, and keep your focus on you and your kids.
You do need to do things like communicate financials, but you want to try and not consider his reactions.. right now it's about you, not him.
Do me a favor, visit my thread, and read my last post, it's a quote from TXHubby on how his sitch played out. It dragged out for 2 years when he was doing what your doing, and the 3rd year he looked at himself, did what he needed to do and that's the year that his sitch turned around.
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
OW is liking stuff on FB again, I've asked him twice to tell her not to this is not a game this is my life but she did it again last night and it's a photograph that my H's friend has tagged him in and was taken on the night we got engaged!!
Would it be wrong of me to text him and tell him to tell her to stop doing it?
Yes it would be wrong for several reasons. One, you're separated. As far as he's concerned he's "free" and can do what he wants. Two, for you to tell him that you would be admitting to snooping on his FB page, which comes off as stalking behavior. That does not make you look attractive to him. Just let it go, I mean really, why do you give a crap who likes what on who's page on FB? That's not the real world
Oh gosh and I thought I was doing quite well. I sent the financials this afternoon and I am just trying to focus on getting the house sorted and my work situation. I spent a lot of time today trying to support Benni8 and look at others posts and read some more. Just got the kids in bed and going to do some paperwork
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Coconut I am not snooping the joint bank account is my bank account I don't have another and he didn't until I set him one up last week. I was checking as I do every day and always have to make sure there is money in the bank for me and the kids. He's used that account card to fill his car up with fuel to take her out for the day which is not acceptable.
I am resigned to the fact that he doesn't want me or the life as a M man with me and his children he has completely disregarded them so he can 'get used to it'. It's easy for him to do that as they are so used to him being away they don't even ask. I am hurting I am disappointed, devastated for me and the kids, sad, angry, humiliated and he doesn't give a [censored] because 'she' makes him happy.
Sorry I've just got my eldest to bed and they are clueless and saying goodnight to my little man who looks so like his Daddy and absolutely adores him is breaking my heart.
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I am literally holding this together by a cotton thread. I am the primary earner by a long way, we have a big mortgage, my car payment is ridiculous but with me working and us together we had enough for a good life. My job is gone my H is only interested in what he has left to spend on OW and my kids haven't got a clue and I want to keep them innocent for as long as possible but I can't do that. No matter how much pain I feel right now it is nothing compared to thought of the pain they are going to feel when he sits down in his euphoric state and tells then that we aren't going to be a family anymore. As a Mum you never ever want your children to experience any physical or emotional pain, I know you have to but when they cry you cry. In any other circumstances I can protect, rub it better, say the right thing to them but I can't protect them from this and it is tearing me apart.
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I woke up this morning to the words I've been dreading D8 climbed into bed and said 'Where's Daddy?' and I had to lie, on exercise I said. My heart is breaking this morning
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