I mean giving advice to what she is dealing with. They are part of her work life and I know all the players involved.
As for the gym- one of my issues in the M was that my exercise always came first so that has never been an issue. I workout everyday. Maybe I should find another hobby!
I always have my D on Fri/Sat nights and otherwise it is work nights so I don't go out much.
There is a going away party for a friend on Saturday night and W is supposed to be picking up our D at 7. I could get all dressed up and ready to go out before she comes over.
It still feels so weird going places with out her. Not many people know our situation so when they ask where she is I have to make something up.
I noticed your post about someone being late, but I don't know your whole thread.
However I read the other day that being late can be a sign of ADD in adults.
Just a thought
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Committing to not pursuing has its benefits and challenges.
Benefits: I feel much more in control of my emotions. I am not putting myself out there to be accepted or rejected and I can totally focus on my personal growth and D.
Challenges: I am afraid that W will detach more and forget about me.
So who did she leave you to pursue? I ask because that is the case. There is an OM in the picture. She's following that script to a tee. The gifts being "not well received" means, among other things, by her OM. You don't have a prayer of working on an M with more than two people in it. Look into it.
I guess I don't know what type of signs to look for if she is having an A. But other than some new clothes she kind of looks shabby, put on weight, doesn't have a pep in her step or a glow about her that would indicate to me she is 'in love'.
She is always available to watch our D if I need her to. D doesn't talk about any new names. Her facebook is still full of pictures of me and our D and of us together.
She lingers around when we are together there is never a hustle to be away from me or like I have to get on to my next activity. She isn't secretive with her phone and it is never blowing up.
Her schedule is traveling for work, coaching and having nights with our D so I don't even know when she would be with OM.
Maybe this is all typical behavior for someone in an A or wanting a divorce. Or maybe she is just crazy.
It's just worth looking into. Checking cell records, whatever. Little things you might normally overlook. She's following a pretty predictable pattern is why I bring it up. I hope I'm wrong but in these cases very rarely am. The reason it's good to know one way or the other is because there are strategies to saving marriages that have to be tweaked depending on your situation. If there are actively more than 2 people in your marriage then any type of counseling or anything at all is a waste of time/money. You can only fix a marriage that has 2 people in it. If there is an OM then just 180, detach, GAL, move on. Make nothing whatsoever easy on her. She'd have to see what really being alone means. Maybe she'll love it. Sometimes they do. You have to be willing to lose the whole thing in order to save it. Good luck.
