So, I received a phone call from a friend last night, she has a single bed (only slept in once by her daughter) for free and wondered if D wanted it for GD.
So, it needs to be picked up tomorrow. I don't have my SS number (he has a large van) so I rang H to ask if he could possibly pick it up as its in the same town SS lives in.
Anyway, both SS and H are picking it up tomorrow and dropping it off.
I also asked H if he could do me a big favour and take me to the hospital on Monday by 8.30am (injection in the breast in another hospital where they will transport me by taxi) as D can't. Local hosp is next door.
He said, absolutely no problem. He will go to SS until I get back by 11 am and he will take me home.
He really sounds happy to help, and if it suits him, then It suits me too.
No harm and at least he feels he's helping and less stress on me, so.....where's the harm?
Westo - Just keep in mind too that this is the man who left you and he has not committed to making his way back. There may still be an OW involved - you haven't mentioned her lately but at one point you thought there might be.
No expectations - and this could all shift unexpectedly.
On the other hand - I'm glad you are getting this contact and that it is making you happy.
((Westo))
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Too true. He did offer to take you to the hospital so you are just taking him up on it. Just take it slowly (I've read a million threads now) and keep your expectations in check. How nice though to have some help.
Yes Andrew, he said he is lodging with OW, but said the relationship was not what I think it is.
I really don't care and made that quite clear. Bear in mind.....he has gone fat, has gout, has recently had surgery to repair a hernia, resulting in a six inch scar, has done his back in and had to have a lump on his bum cheek lanced....
Wow, what a catch for her, ehe?!
He has an awful lot of work to gain our trust back, but he is trying.
What I have learned from this awesome forum is....I don't need him. And I absolutely believe he sees this, and this has really given him a bit of a shake up.
Whatever happens, I have left him with a very different impression to a year ago, and I have this site to thank for that.
Wow, that is awesome. You really don't blneed him.
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Let's take this one step at a time. Go to the hospital and get your injection and see how you feel afterwards. If you feel up to it, a good way to show him that you appreciate his assistance is to offer him a cup of coffee. There is always the possibility he will say no...but wait and see how you feel after your procedure.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
So, today H took me to the hospital. I was then transported by taxi with a nurse to another hospital about 30 minutes away to have the injection.
When we returned H was waiting outside and came back up to the ward with me.
I have my own room which is all ready for me for tomorrow's op. We had to wait over an hour for me to have another ultrasound scan and to mark my breast. H told me he went to the local supermarket and bought me a new mobile phone. I haven't used one for years.
He wants me to text him as soon as I come round from the anaesthetic. He took me for lunch and we chatted about all sorts. We had a couple prolonged silences, but I suppose that's to be expected. We did have a few laughs. It was pleasant.
I didn't have to invite him in for coffee.......he just came in the house with me. On leaving he gave me a big hug and asked me again to text him and that he will either visit me tomorrow at the hospital or the day after at home, if I'm out by then.
So, the phone is on charge. I just have to make sure I remember to take the flipping thing!
Westo, how nice that everything came together. Good luck tomorrow, I'm sure it will be a relief to have it over. I'm glad that your H is taking good care of you and concerned about you in this time.
