given the givens, you are doing quite well. You are in the last lap, until the next - sleepless - marathon starts.
But that too, will pass. You will get to the other side of this.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Ha 25, I wanted to suggest the motorcycle but I didn't. I actually suggested specific things that are joint things. We have 2 extra trucks that we use to tow the boats we have. So, I suggested those as I thought it would be quick and easy. He just said, I don't know. So I left it at that.
(And I *do* think that some of that "black-and-white," cards-on-the-table personality might make it seem like you're more motherly than "wifely," which is something you can work on ... for BOTH of your benefits. I had to work on it, too; it was hard, but life is so much sweeter now!! We'll get to that later.)
I would contend that it would be very hard for a man to "pretend" to love his W while he's infatuated/having an A with another. So take his behavior the past day or two as good news. And maybe let this phone call roll off your back for now?
I agree!
T, you must keep your mouth closed...... even if you have to duct tape it shut!
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
You are doing GREAT, T! We have a few more days to STFU and stay off his phone and bring that beautiful bouncing baby boy into the world! YAY! And the calmer you are at home, the more welcoming and comfortable home is, and the more H is going to think about home ... and you and the family ... *even if he is at work*.
Big hugs! You have a busy next few days to prepare for!
M: 40 H: 44 Married 14 years S11 & D6; D20 & D19 from previous M 2BDs/PAs, 8 years apart Piecing: April 2014
Yes, TO, I agree that you are DOING GREAT! Keep ShuttingTFU and when you're tempted to go negative or fussy, just inwardly see all of us peeking in your kitchen window shaking our collective heads NO, and it is bound to bring a smile to your face!
M-60 H-51 M-14 years BD 12/26/16 S 1/1/17
"First the pain, then the rising." Glennon Doyle Melton
Haha I can totally picture the way I've pictured everyone in my mind staring through my kitchen window
Not much to report. H chose not to go to work today and came to all 4 /9,,23 games with the boys and I. He was pretty quiet/distant but I was friendly and made casual conversation.
The boys just left to go stay the night with my mom so it will be just H and I here til tomorrow. He is outside working in the garage right now and I'm inside cleaning and organizing baby stuff.
He told me he will be going to work tomorrow. I have my shower and then my uncle is in town and we were supposed to have lunch with him. But now H is working so it will be just the boys and I going. I didn't say anything just ok.
I was thinking of asking H if he wanted to go to a movie or get dinner. Not sure if that's something I'm supposed to be doing.
Well, you have to eat, right? And a movie might be a good way to do something together without the temptation to talk. If you ask, just be prepared to not react if he says no. NO EXPECTATIONS. You're doing great!
M-60 H-51 M-14 years BD 12/26/16 S 1/1/17
"First the pain, then the rising." Glennon Doyle Melton
Now I'm all nervous about whether you're at 6 centimeters, wanting time to pass faster, and the dang epidural to happen, or you're pushing or you're changing a diaper or what... I'm also vicariously excited!
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
