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70Cuda #2740333 04/24/17 07:05 AM
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Originally Posted By: 70Cuda
She already knows about this site.
I don't hide anything from her.
Really this is just for support and advice when needed.
None of the conventional methods I have tried worked. but doing it my own way yielded the best results by far!

If you ever played a team sport and showed the opposing team your playbook this is the handicap you are now working with.

Part of the point is that some times a little mystery is a good thing.


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Understandable. I won't be posting everything on here, and will not share the book with her at all right now.

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There was a slight setback today, rumors are starting to fly around about it and got back to the W.

She is upset that people are talking about it now.

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Hello 70Cuda,

I'm so sorry for the situation you are in.

What kind or rumors? Yes, there will be setbacks, but how you handle them is critical.

You are at a very fragile point in this relationship and it would be extremely helpful to know what your next move should be. Feel free to give me a call at 303-444-7004 to discuss how we can best help you determine what to do next.

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just the rumors of us splitting, so true ones.

70Cuda #2740371 04/24/17 10:06 AM
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Originally Posted By: 70Cuda
There was a slight setback today, rumors are starting to fly around about it and got back to the W.

She is upset that people are talking about it now.



Maybe something she should have thought about beforehand...

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I thought so. But now she is embarrassed.

I'm just taking it all in stride and trying for baby steps right now.

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so question on this, is it a good idea that every time I am offered to go to dinner or "hang out" I do? It will definitely be hard not to. And as long as when we do she opens up a bit I don't see any harm because real communication happens then.

I'm new to all of this and have already messed up repeatedly so any opinions help.

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70Cuda,

Messing up is totally normal in all this. Learning from how you have messed up and correcting that behavior is most important. If you have opportunities, you should take them. It gives you more opportunities to do good or to mess up. You learn from both.

Hope this helps.


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That's kinda my thought on it. She seems upset again tonight. I am not going to push anything with her at all. let her take her time

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