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#2710866 - 10/18/16 08:34 AM Re: The Adventures of GH31, Wife and Baby [Re: GH31]
kippz Offline
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Registered: 04/09/15
Posts: 76
good to know there is hope and there are success stories! continued success to your marriage!

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#2730288 - 02/15/17 02:34 PM Re: The Adventures of GH31, Wife and Baby [Re: kippz]
KCRoo Offline
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Registered: 01/03/17
Posts: 105
GH31,

I have been reading through your old threads, I believe I am on Thread 9. I don't know how you did it. I know you don't come on here very often, but how did you have the patience to deal with everything?
_________________________
Me:33, WW:30
BD:12/14/16, EA
no children
Still together

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#2730746 - 02/19/17 09:25 AM Re: The Adventures of GH31, Wife and Baby [Re: KCRoo]
GH31 Offline
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Registered: 03/01/08
Posts: 652
Loc: Munich, Germany
Originally Posted By: KCRoo
GH31,

I have been reading through your old threads, I believe I am on Thread 9. I don't know how you did it. I know you don't come on here very often, but how did you have the patience to deal with everything?


Hi KCRoo,

Thanks for dropping by. The honest answer to your question is that I have absolutely no idea. None.

I have no idea at all where I found the strength, patience and perseverance. I'm not sure if I'd even recommend people to hang on like I did because it came at a great personal cost. I struggled with PTSD-like symptoms for years afterwards and I regard my 30s as my "lost decade". I lost so much of myself in all of that and had to completely rebuild, both the marriage and me personally.

Hope this helps. Fighting for your marriage is worth it if you want it, and have the strength.

GH31
_________________________
Me: 40
W: 40
T: 18
M: 15
W left: 01/28/08
Discovered OM: 02/26/08
W returned for 9 days: 04/08
W returned 05/21/08
EA/PA - 01/08-07/09
1 son born 2009
1 daughter born 2010
Baby #3 due April 2017

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#2730802 - 02/20/17 07:10 AM Re: The Adventures of GH31, Wife and Baby [Re: GH31]
Cadet Online

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Registered: 11/24/09
Posts: 11961
Loc: NY
Originally Posted By: GH31
Another thing I would add to this:

Third child expected April 2017

wink

Congrats - not sure if you wrote this in this thread or not!
So just bringing it over here!
_________________________
Me-64, D31,S30

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#2730825 - 02/20/17 09:25 AM Re: The Adventures of GH31, Wife and Baby [Re: Cadet]
GH31 Offline
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Registered: 03/01/08
Posts: 652
Loc: Munich, Germany
Originally Posted By: Cadet
Originally Posted By: GH31
Another thing I would add to this:

Third child expected April 2017

wink

Congrats - not sure if you wrote this in this thread or not!
So just bringing it over here!


I hadn't mentioned it at all on this thread. Still can't believe we're having a third.
_________________________
Me: 40
W: 40
T: 18
M: 15
W left: 01/28/08
Discovered OM: 02/26/08
W returned for 9 days: 04/08
W returned 05/21/08
EA/PA - 01/08-07/09
1 son born 2009
1 daughter born 2010
Baby #3 due April 2017

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#2730960 - 02/21/17 08:22 AM Re: The Adventures of GH31, Wife and Baby [Re: GH31]
KCRoo Offline
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Registered: 01/03/17
Posts: 105
Well it gives me hope to see that you made it through a dire situation. Congrats on the new GH31
_________________________
Me:33, WW:30
BD:12/14/16, EA
no children
Still together

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#2740411 - 04/24/17 12:25 PM Re: The Adventures of GH31, Wife and Baby [Re: KCRoo]
GH31 Offline
Member

Registered: 03/01/08
Posts: 652
Loc: Munich, Germany
A bit of an update to my situation.

Beautiful baby boy born last week smile

Mrs GH31 is extremely brave to put herself through that a third time. He's absolutely adorable - absolutely loved to bits by his mother, father, older sister and older brother.
_________________________
Me: 40
W: 40
T: 18
M: 15
W left: 01/28/08
Discovered OM: 02/26/08
W returned for 9 days: 04/08
W returned 05/21/08
EA/PA - 01/08-07/09
1 son born 2009
1 daughter born 2010
Baby #3 due April 2017

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#2745139 - 05/30/17 11:31 AM Re: The Adventures of GH31, Wife and Baby [Re: GH31]
Stormchaser Offline
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Registered: 11/30/07
Posts: 207
I absolutely love this post. I'm going to read through everything this week.

Thanks, GH31.
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Me: 52
Her: 48
2D 26 & 16
M: 25 years (together 30)
EA/discovered by accident Valentines day 2016
Admitted SOME physical but no IC.
We know that's a lie.
Status - tryin to R

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#2780213 - 02/28/18 09:13 AM Re: The Adventures of GH31, Wife and Baby [Re: pearlharbr]
joejoe1 Online
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Registered: 08/25/17
Posts: 742
Loc: San Antonio, Texas
GH31,

I hope you are still lurking. I really enjoyed reading your updates after you and your W decided to recon.

I must agree with you that there isn't much here for recon and tools to help process thru it. I would really like more on this topic. I have a few questions, if you don't mind helping.

I also think, I'm going to have to take a break from here, I don't want to because I feel obligated to help, since I received so much wonderful help, but I can tell that coming here affects my mood, reading all the hurt, pain, and trauma caused in today's Ms.

I also want to say, that all I wanted was my W back while DBing, Now i'm lost to why I feel like running all the time. I think I have been emotionally scared, and probably have PTSD from her A. But I want to move past this.

How long did it take you to get over your W A?

What tools did you use to help you heal?

How do you see your W now?

Do you ever still get remainders/flashbacks?

Why do I focus so much on her A, and not understand how much pain I caused also?

I want so much to love my W and find a way to move pass all of this, but my mind and emotions are all over the place.

Looking for some help from another DB that has gone thru the fire.
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M:34 W:34
T:8 M:7
S13, S10, S7, S1
BD:06/28/17
OM confirmed 07/20/17
Recon the M 10/29/17
Working hard:2gether

Onward and forward

This process is not a sprint it's a marathon! Patience, Patience, Patience.

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