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Westo #2737533 04/04/17 11:16 PM
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Hi Westo, I'm hoping you told her this wouldn't be what you would want?

You R with H is your own business and if you want to contact him about his intentions, you will do that. (I'm not suggesting that btw)

Hope you have a good day Westo smile


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Hi Sotto,

Yes, that's exactly what I told her. I told her that he knows where I am and it's for him to do so and if she wants to contact her about her kids etc that is up to her but not about our sitch.

Thanks for the reply smile

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Looks like H may have forgotten GD fifth birthday which was yesterday.

D is fuming, especially as he went to his sons' house to see their new baby girl last week.

Father in law posted a card through her letterbox last night, they used to call in. How sad it's come to this....the family split in half because of H.

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So D texted H today.......it was GD birthday Monday.........' He replied.

'Yes I know, but as you and GD's daddy said you didn't want her messed around
(I emailed this fact to him nearly a year ago),

I didn't send a card but I have been thinking of her'......he then proceeded to ask what she and I had got her and that he would send money to D's account.

D messaged back that he's still her Papa and the only one GD has. He ignored the comment and replied that he had sent money.

£100.......she didn't want money, she wanted a card from him signed Papa.

She is going to leave it a couple of days for him to mull it over before telling him that.

He's such a bloody coward, I just knew he'd use that excuse. If he had a pair of balls he could ask to see GD, nothing to do with me but hey.....there you go!

He really has a job to do with D....she will NEVER think the same of him again...he was her hero as he brought her up as his own from the age of four.

I'm doing great though........not emailing him and working on me, but it is hard.

He thinks he can brush her off with a bit of cash.........that he hasn't got!

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Hey West, ugh, I hate it when H throws money at D as well. All she wants is her step-Dad home not cash. They think this will make everything better!


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Crying again....

I haven't seen H since last May, but keep telling myself I'll be ok.

Hard though.....he used to adore me. When I got in from work he always had to sniff my neck, like I was his.

So difficult...

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((((Westo))))

Be strong - you'll get through this. You are surrounded by people who care about you.


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Thanks for the hug Andrew, I needed that.

I'm trying but it's been a tough weekend emotionally. It's so difficult to watch D in tears over the fact he didn't bother send a card.

I drafted a very angry email the other night after a few wines, and deleted it the next day.

I am learning, and so glad I'm not in the place mentally I was a year ago.

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Its his 52nd birthday tomorrow.

I plan to send a simple email hoping he has a nice day, unless anyone thinks this is a bad idea?

D is still so hurt that he didn't send our GD a card on hers. frown

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Two years ago tonight I messaged him in work to ask why he had removed himself from FB as people would want to wish him a happy 50 in the morning.

He answered that it was just a number and didn't want any fuss.

I thought then that it was a strange thing to do......the clues were there for a long time before BD.

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