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#2735019 - 03/20/17 05:08 AM Flying Blind
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#2735020 - 03/20/17 05:13 AM Re: Flying Blind [Re: Jeep74]
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So, the first official single weekend has passed in over 10 years. Kind of anti-climatic. Exchange Saturday was OK, except for her attitude. And me? I felt just fine.

Spent the weekend doing busy stuff: Changed fan belt in truck which led to spark plugs to... Yard work and then gym. Was so tired I barely logged on to do some shootin...

Picked the kids up Sunday and the ex proceeded to show me 5 new (well, relatively new) tattoos with one down low strategically placed above, well, you get the drift. Good grief.

So, I feel like I'm flying blind. I'm scared for the kids. They didn't deserve any of this. At all.
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#2735022 - 03/20/17 05:59 AM Re: Flying Blind [Re: Jeep74]
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Jeep...I know how you feel.. when meet for drop off/exchange and I look at the f'n bags and think what the F.... this is the life you want for our kids .. your so GD lazy that you wouldn't lift a finger to work on marriage or at the very least your problems (and mine ) which led to it..? Your right they didn't ask for any of it and I feel guilty about being a part of short changing them on what I would consider a whole and complete life... now it will be fractured and damaged ... riddled with questions and fears I never wanted them to be exposed to... but wtf.... at least "she's" happy..... still dealing with a tinge of anger if you couldn't tell..

I just do the best I can while they are in MY care and try to forget about the other half and those things I cannot control.

New tats huh.. a little mlc going on ?

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#2735034 - 03/20/17 07:10 AM Re: Flying Blind [Re: Tofbrks]
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still dealing with a tinge of anger if you couldn't tell


Right there with you...

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I just do the best I can while they are in MY care and try to forget about the other half and those things I cannot control


Yeah, I get that. I really do. Its that she and her sister have already begun some form of parental alienation. Not sure what they are saying/doing, because I don't ask the kids. Maybe I should, but then that could push them away and make them feel torn. Ugh.

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New tats huh.. a little mlc going on ?


Naw, its just her. She's always had tats. For much longer than I've known her. The divorce is "liberating" to her... I don't put much stock into the MLC hooey...these are adults who fully are aware of their actions.
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#2735049 - 03/20/17 07:51 AM Re: Flying Blind [Re: Jeep74]
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Sounds like a pretty good weekend to me! Other than the exchanges, but you will be fine with those because you are tough. Happy Monday, Jeep! smile
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#2735058 - 03/20/17 07:57 AM Re: Flying Blind [Re: Dawn70]
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Originally Posted By: Dawn70
Sounds like a pretty good weekend to me! Other than the exchanges, but you will be fine with those because you are tough. Happy Monday, Jeep! smile


Thank you, my friend!

Happy Monday and spring break to you, too!
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#2735120 - 03/20/17 12:16 PM Re: Flying Blind [Re: Jeep74]
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Originally Posted By: Jeep74
So, I feel like I'm flying blind. I'm scared for the kids. They didn't deserve any of this. At all.


Jeep,

I can understand why you'd be scared for the kids. I hope you can find a way to ensure their safety when you're not around.

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#2735126 - 03/20/17 12:45 PM Re: Flying Blind [Re: doodler]
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I can understand why you'd be scared for the kids. I hope you can find a way to ensure their safety when you're not around.


Thank you, my friend. It's more than their safety. Her family is batshite crazy...no other way to say it - especially her sister. And her sister has made it clear on more than one occasion that she wants me out of the children's lives.
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#2735128 - 03/20/17 12:51 PM Re: Flying Blind [Re: Jeep74]
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Why is her sister intent on making life difficult for you?

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#2735216 - 03/21/17 04:53 AM Re: Flying Blind [Re: doodler]
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Originally Posted By: doodler

Why is her sister intent on making life difficult for you?



Her sister controls her and what she does. Her sister brings true definition to narcissist. True. Remember my mole in their camp? Well, the sister has had a hand in every single relationship of the ex. Not long after we were married and right after the miscarriage blow up, the ex told me that the sister was "jealous" of her relationships...and the mole confirmed that and told me that the sister has tried to break up every single relationship. In fact, years ago that same mole told me the sister (told her in confidence) wanted me out of the ex's life...

Their family is f***ing crazy. Period.
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