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And now begins Thread #3

Thread #1: Background, me not DBing, and first leg of my DB journey

Thread #2: Separating

Now begins yet another experience I never imagined - mediation to separate from my wife.


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11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA
Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing
1/11/17 BD2: W wants 1 month break
2/1/17: Divorce Remedy. Start DBing
2/17/17 BD3: W - separation to start D process
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You got this, my friend.


There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
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Hi kevinin I have read your story and my god we are both the same waw, 2 kids, using headspace. I hope that we can continue to support each other through this minefield of divorce we both seem not to want...


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Dec16- w says we need mc
Jan 17- w doesn't commit to mc
Feb 17 - ea discovered Dec 16
D-day Feb 17- one night hook up
March 17 w wants out but won't file
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Originally Posted By: dodog
I hope that we can continue to support each other through this minefield of divorce we both seem not to want...


I agree.


M:39 W:36 - D1:2 D2:6
11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA
Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing
1/11/17 BD2: W wants 1 month break
2/1/17: Divorce Remedy. Start DBing
2/17/17 BD3: W - separation to start D process
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W just called to say hi to the kids. I feel positive she was with OM. The odd things she was saying made me think it.

I'm doing a good job detaching, but i still find that her behavior p!sses me off sometimes.


M:39 W:36 - D1:2 D2:6
11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA
Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing
1/11/17 BD2: W wants 1 month break
2/1/17: Divorce Remedy. Start DBing
2/17/17 BD3: W - separation to start D process
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Originally Posted By: KevinIn
W just called to say hi to the kids. I feel positive she was with OM. The odd things she was saying made me think it.

I'm doing a good job detaching, but i still find that her behavior p!sses me off sometimes.


Mine did the same on Friday. Living it up, as she has done since BD. Oh well.


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I just realized last friday was 4 weeks since our last MC appointment, which was also the last time i said anything about our relationship. And it's been 7 weeks since i started detaching and not talking about our relationship.

We've only talked about kid logistics and mediation.

It's been super hard. But, i have surprised myself that i haven't slipped up.

Because I've been good at not talking to her, i have no clue if its doing anything to her thoughts on us. I assume not yet (or if ever), so im going to keep it up.


M:39 W:36 - D1:2 D2:6
11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA
Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing
1/11/17 BD2: W wants 1 month break
2/1/17: Divorce Remedy. Start DBing
2/17/17 BD3: W - separation to start D process
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Because I've been good at not talking to her, i have no clue if its doing anything to her thoughts on us. I assume not yet (or if ever), so im going to keep it up.


If she was interested, she'd let you know.


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Are you in close agreement for the mediation?


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2016 BD W fantasy affair w OM1 I do everything wrong
2017 I start to DB W says TLTL files for D PA w OM2
2018 I do LRT W drops filing and OM2 situation slowly improving
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Originally Posted By: Gordie
Are you in close agreement for the mediation?


Yes, for the custody issues.

We havent discussed financial stuff yet, and i have no clue whats going on in her head with that.


M:39 W:36 - D1:2 D2:6
11/19/16 BD1: ILYBNILWY, EA/PA
Dec/Jan: MC, pursuing, not DBing
1/11/17 BD2: W wants 1 month break
2/1/17: Divorce Remedy. Start DBing
2/17/17 BD3: W - separation to start D process
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