Sleepless in the midwest!

[ForGump]

its a huge pay cut but that does not matter to me right me.

Right on. You're doing the right thing.

maybe i am misinterpreting detached as WAW.

Based on your description, she doesn't sound like someone practicing DB to me. Detaching isn't about neglecting your partner, which is what she's doing. It's about not letting your partner's behavior drive your emotions up and down. You have had any physical affection in 18 months, and she's implied that you're not truly married. That doesn't sound like DB-ing to me. Sounds like someone who's given up on the marriage.

[Kid]

FG - you are spot on, i wish i could go back in time and beat some sense into my younger, foolish arrogant self (lol).

[ForGump]

I have hope for you.

She's going to see a great guy, and come around. It just takes time.

Your situation is the most promising I have read about here, I think.

Be steady. Be great.

[MrBond]

You never answered the question. Have you read DB or DR books yet?

[Kid]

You never answered the question. Have you read DB or DR books yet?

MrBond - sorry, didn't mean to ignore you. I have not, but i am almost certain that my wife bought these books. I will check once i go home in 3 days.

[Cadet]

Just keep POSTING and one other bit of advice from Wonka
that I totally agree with.

Get DR/DB book. Keep this to yourself. DO NOT share this book or this site at all with your spouse. It is your playbook and not to be shared with the "opposing" team.

It is important to clear the search/browsing history from your computer on a daily basis to prevent the possibility for your WAS to stumble on the DB site and discover your posts here on DB. Erasing the search history will protect your posts and you as well.

We have seen too many Marriages blow up in pieces after the WAS discovers the DB site or DR book. Why is that? It is because the WAS thinks, erroneously I might add, that you are "manipulating" them back into the M.

Keep the DR book and DB site very close to your vest.

[SM34]

Firstly, order the books NOW. No one can offer you advice if they also need to explain to you the concepts.

Secondly, I strongly recommend that you take Christy's advice and call for some telephone coaching. I'd say your situation is promising but what you do now will be the difference between a happy family and a certain divorce. Get professional help alongside the help from these good folks who are super knowledgeable.

[Cristy]

Firstly, order the books NOW. No one can offer you advice if they also need to explain to you the concepts.

Secondly, I strongly recommend that you take Christy's advice and call for some telephone coaching. I'd say your situation is promising but what you do now will be the difference between a happy family and a certain divorce. Get professional help alongside the help from these good folks who are super knowledgeable.

Hello Kid,

I agree, get the books on your own and keep them to yourself. These are your tools. You want your efforts to be sincere and genuine which would be discounted if you ask your wife if she has the books.

Thanks for the vote of confidence SM34!

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[sandi2]

Still here?

[RDS]

FG - you are spot on, i wish i could go back in time and beat some sense into my younger, foolish arrogant self (lol).

I think we all wish we could do that. I know I wish I could see then what I see now. It was so obvious but my resentment towards my W prevented me from seeing it.