JRuss, I think you should seriously consider buying yourself a Toyota Tacoma pickup truck. A real man-truck, know what I mean? Oops, sorry, no, not really I guess, but at least Toyotas are so damn reliable, right? Anyhow, it probably requires some serious research to make sure you get the right one.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
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There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
I feel a little bit like I'm back in my marriage, not fully understanding what's being said to me, but knowing I should know there's something deeper going on.
Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
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There are moments in this life when you are so confident in the rightness of your actions, that not even for a second do you consider the option that you might be wrong.
I feel a little bit like I'm back in my marriage, not fully understanding what's being said to me, but knowing I should know there's something deeper going on.
Ha ha!
JR, I love you man!!! But I ain't in love with you no more!
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
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Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
FG and lt -- hey guys. Long time no cyber talk. I hope you're both doing well (or at least better). Not a whole lot to report on my situation. Still slowly ticking down the days until she closes on her house (May 19th) and moves out (probably the following week). We'll be formally divorced sometime in early June. We are pretty cordial. Things seem to go best for all parties when I act as though I don't give a $hit, which is even sometimes really the case, so that's what I try to do.
Looking out ahead, I think when she moves out will be very sad. I've known a long time this wasn't going to end any other way, but it still makes my heart hurt thinking about it. I think I'm going to tell her I need to know the day(s) the moving truck will be here, so I can arrange to be elsewhere.
Yesterday, out of the blue, she e-mailed me and said S10, who is struggling at times with the D, would really benefit from a dog, and wouldn't it make a lot of sense if we got one for him, and the dog would just go back and forth with the kids when we do handoffs? I was noncommittal. I think the dog would struggle with that arrangement, wouldn't it? I'm also not sure I am looking for more ways to stay connected to her (recognizing we'll always have the children connecting us). I do think he'd benefit from some sort of animal friend (we lost two adult cats this fall/winter he'd known and loved his whole life), so I'm struggling a bit with where my duty to do what's best for the kids and what's best for me starts/ends.
We'll do Easter this weekend as a family. It will probably be the last holiday the four of us do together. Bittersweet to say the least.
GAL continues to go well. Benched 15 lbs. more than my body weight this week and have kept off all of the weight I lost after BD. Looking and feeling good (most of the time).
I hope you both have a great weekend.
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Me: 46 W: 44 Married: 17 Together 21 D13; S10 BD: 03.03.15 (Not attracted to you) Almost 2 years trying, alone, to save marriage Status now: Divorced (effective 06.13.17)
JR! Good to see you brother. I don't blame you for wanting to be away from the house when she moves. I know I'd have a difficult time with it too. No need to subject yourself to it.
On the dog, I'd probably say no. I think that it adds a layer of complexity to an already highly complex situation. Seems like you'd want to each get your own pets and the kids could see them when they rotate bt you and W. Would also be good companionship for y'all during the off times with the kids. Keep in mind, my W has tried to replace me with a cat (she promised to D last fall) so maybe I'm a bit bitter!
I know you brother and I know you do give a sh$t, even if you aren't showing it. This is some tough crap you're going through and you've been doing it longer than most of us. Keep pushing forward and I've no doubt all will be good for you. Hang in there JR!
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Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
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Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
